Hi! My Name is Tracy A. Malone, founder of Narcissist Abuse Support and I’m here to help! 🙂
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Hi there. This is Tracy and tonight. I would like to talk to you about
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love bombing and
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People often ask me when they’re getting involved with someone new after they’ve been abused by a narcissist gone the whole
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like
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Growth and
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Understanding of what [a] narcissus it
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And now they’re faced with a new person this person is showering them with love
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They’re helping them
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Understand what happened? They’re being so empathetic and carrying
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their love bombing to the point of
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Texts all day all night
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First thing in the morning. There’s a smiling picture miss you click
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Love bombing can happen at work they could send you flowers
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When they love bomb you, and you’re confused as [to] if this is moving too quickly. Have you found your soul mate
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if you’re wondering that
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That’s good
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This is a sign that you have begun [to] recover
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from the last
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Horrific narcissist in your life, and you’ve got this protection up around you that will
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Guide you to make [sure] that you don’t make that choice again
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But what you have to do to test the narcissist?
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I’m sorry
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The person I don’t know that they’re narcissists if [they’re] [loved] bombing
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It could just be love it for [site] rate
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It could be prince charming
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Don’t think that there isn’t one and guys
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Cinderella’s not really, [they’re] just saying okay
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Well my lady is freaking out. Sorry
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so
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What I want you to do is slow it down
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take it and
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Tell him that you were not comfortable
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Don’t just slow it down
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Without letting him know I’m using him, but it could be him or her
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When we slow something down
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On our own accord as a test
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the person doesn’t know they’re being tested and
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They could get angry
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That’s not the worst thing that happens, right
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We want to test them do they get angry because I’ve said I want to be with my family this weekend
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That’s okay
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When this person loves mom you and makes you uncomfortable
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It’s your job
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[to] use your boundaries and tell them
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Does that make sense I?
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Didn’t know what boundaries were
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And now I do
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the important part about that is
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Not just holding boundaries inside yourself because we all can hold boundaries within ourselves
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That doesn’t tell the other person
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This is the Boundary don’t cross this line
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If you don’t start setting boundaries right now you’re in [for] big trouble
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If the person gets upset with you because you need a little space or you want to go a little slower guess what?
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They’re not the one. They’re not the one
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the one that
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Thinks you’re perfect and wonderful just the way you are
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would [wait]
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they would take time and
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Care about your feelings if they’re rushing you too fast and you feel rushed, and they won’t slow down
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Boundary is I need you to slow down or I’m out of here. You don’t know if it’s good. You don’t know if it’s bad
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Don’t take a chance
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Honor yourself
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Say those boundaries try it turn on the mic clerk at the grocery store first
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I don’t like the way you’re bagging my groceries
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Speak it
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we can’t get mad at someone for
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crossing a boundaries
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When we haven’t told them that there is a boundary?
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We can’t really test someone
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if
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They don’t know [we’re] what we want and what we expect and if we don’t tell them what we expect
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We certainly will not get it
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This is tracy protect yourself from love-bombing if you’re questioning, whether new guy is
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love-bombing you
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Slow it down
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Slow it down
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until you are comfortable
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speak up and
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Tell them exactly how you feel that’s a test right there
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[they’re] really mad at you and walk away, and
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You dodged a bullet. This is all good. Don’t think of it as [a] bad thing
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You’ll be fine. Just like my camera will look
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It’s so crazy, and that is all I have thank you