in any abusive relationship we are often asked “why did we stay” In this video I will review 19 reasons people stay in an abusive relationship. It is my hope that in learning the official reasons why people stay you can better understand and possibly forgive yourself for staying with a narcissist. Perhaps it was love? perhaps it was fear of being alone, or possibly the reasons that the abuser has planted in your head, guilt, shame, failure, or financial.