What a blessing to find these wonderful caring, passionate people that run narcissist, codependent support groups. I am starting a meetup and I went in pursuit to talk to as many meetup leaders to get ideas and suggestions for my first meeting next month. What an amazing our pouring of support, so much my heart is on fire with excitement. Here is how the last 48 hours have gone.
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Hi, this is Tracy and tonight with that beautiful sky. I am going to talk about
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Resources that you have at your disposal and you may not even know it
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YouTube is amazing we have blogs. We have books we have everything but
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[one-on-one]
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Kind of a group like a meetup. That’s what we’re gonna talk about tonight stay tuned
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Heather this is Tracy and tonight. I want to talk to you about
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What I’ve been doing for the last few weeks, and it’s so very exciting
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I’ve been building a website that is going to be for
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Narcissus support and
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victims and it’s going to be
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A national site that is going to have resources for people to get counseling
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to get help to
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find
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counselors to find
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Coaches that can help them when they’ve been in a narcissist relationship be it your mother
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Or a boyfriend or you know a family member
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I think it’s so critical that we all understand. What resources are out there and
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one of them is meetup groups and I
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Started a meetup group here [in] Colorado
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about
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two or three weeks ago
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And it’s quickly turned into about 17 or 18 people which is
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really to show the demand of how many people really want to learn about this and so I’m
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Going to have my first meeting next week, but I didn’t want to
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Do it without talking to people who have been doing it so part of our website was to find
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every Narcissist abuse every narcissist support
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children of this every kind of meet up that we can find in the United states and
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I think we have 65 of them on our list and
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yesterday much to the dismay of
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meetup Com I
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emailed every single one of the leaders of these groups and
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Asked them if I could talk to them can I talk to them about how they run it?
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how do they do it and keep the
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The safe feeling that I want to create by having this I am not a therapist
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I am not a you know a coach a doctor I
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I’m a recovering
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Victim
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Survivor and I know a lot and I can
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Help people and I think it’s not in the home the help that I can offer people
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It is really in the help that we can offer each other because in its in each other stories that we can
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Share and in that story
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They can find hope people that are hopeless and have no access to them because of financial reasons people that don’t
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Really know where to turn this website is going to leave people to that in no matter. What state. They’re in
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but it’s also going to leave them to free meetup groups and
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it’s been such a whirlwind 24 hours because
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In addition to getting three biopsies yesterday and fainting on the table at the doctor’s office
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I was able to talk to meetup leaders from Alaska, Washington DC
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Texas Chicago, Michigan
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Florida it is a myth that the outpouring of love and the support
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that all of these people are giving me some groups have sent me their
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Mantras their paperwork
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You know secret handshake [now] just kidding
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They’ve shared their years of hard work to do this so [that] I can make my group better and that you know ultimately
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We [are] all helping each other, so if you haven’t looked for a meet our area
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definitely do it see what’s out there and
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If you don’t have one in your area or anyone you
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Don’t have to be an expert
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You don’t have to make youtube videos you just have [to] want to get together with people
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And it seems like there’s so many different formats that you can take
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Some of the people that I have talked to have a topic
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They talk about it they talk about
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Narc Speak so the language and [the]
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Words that you know are commonly thrown around red flags that you know
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Get put out there, then there’s others that you know just let a freefall conversation go
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limiting the time Generally on anybody trying to
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Steal the show and on only getting their stuff in so that everybody gets a chance and everybody can interact with
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Every bone story if they’re having a particularly
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hard week they’ve got a support group that they can turn to and
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For me. I I want to do a lot of all of that
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but I also want to get experts we have some experts here in the
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Denver area that can come and talk to us about
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raising a child and co-parenting with a narcissist because
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how do you do it, and if we can get a therapist out there and talk with them and
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Help the people in the group that way look how powerful that will be how about if we have a speaker on
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children of Narcissists
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There’s a woman with a book will I ever be good enough
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Caring something she’s actually from adjoining area and I’m totally gonna make her come across your fingers
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But it would [be] great. It would give her exposure and it would it would give everybody you know
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just professional information, and then we have the special talking time where we share and
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Support each other, so if you haven’t looked for a meetup group in your area, I strongly recommend that you look for it
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I am excited that the Narcissus community of
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Support people have come called me emailed me texted me, and it’s been so power
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So I’m really grateful for that and next week
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We’re going to have our first meeting, and I just heard from a man in Texas who?
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Has been with a group for two years and he’s going to be in Colorado next week
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so he’s going to be a guest at our group and really help me kick it off with with great strength, so
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We are not alone none of us are alone. We just have to know where to look how to get the help and I
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Hope [to] lead that charge in my area anyway
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and I hope [that] I can inspire you to lead it in your area because everybody needs help and
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if just to sit around in the circle and
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Be there for one another listen to each other stories
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Isn’t that what this youtube is all about we all are learning together. We all are healing together
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So look for a meetup in your area there [are]
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63 I think in the United States
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So and there’s a whole lot. I’ve actually had conversations with a woman in London
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who’s starting her group now and someone else in Australia, so
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they’re out there look for the help and
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Peace out, thanks
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