After the grand finale with a Narcissist expect a smear campaign to occur. A smear campaign is pretty much what it sounds like – they are going to smear your name to your friends and family and try to do it first so that they come off looking like a victim instead of the nasty inhuman that they are. In this video I will explain the process and hopefully through my story give you some ideas on how to protect yourself, how to react, how to deal with the hurt and additional abuse of now having to defend your honor when it was them who was a horrible person.
remember they are great liars so this is the next chance they can get to lie to your friends and family about you. They do this to isolate you and make you feel alone.
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hi there this is Tracy today I’m going
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to talk to you about smear campaigns and
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the lies that narcissists create to make
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us suffer where do they spread lies and
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rumors and and make up like malicious
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gossip I mean do you really use
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malicious too often in a sentence other
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than like malicious gossip
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I don’t narcissists do it for a few
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reasons they want to isolate us and they
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want to shame us am I the only one or or
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do you feel shame when you think about
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what happened I think that’s part of the
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getting mad at ourself part but the
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narcissist does this to keep themselves
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in control ultimate emotional and social
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predator they’re vicious and their only
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intention is to hurt us and win any
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class I mean they don’t care what they
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do I have heard so many stories now and
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I can only imagine how many more and
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going into a narcissist Support Group
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where I’ve been on a waiting list for
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months and and she’s gonna have to start
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to now because there’s just too many
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remember you haven’t done anything to
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get all of this smear campaigns you’ve
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done nothing wrong you’re the victim in
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all of this sometimes we like suffer
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colossal losses and damage to our life
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narcissists don’t think too much about
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what they’re doing it’s actually like a
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natural defense mechanism but it’s it’s
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something that that’s mechanical it they
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don’t even know they’re doing it and it
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just takes over and they do it like a
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robot it’s their self-preservation
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by gaming people on their side and
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rallying your friends and family against
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you they are going for ultimate control
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and they’re trying to do avoid being
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exposed and and on 3x when I found out
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that he I had found out the truth and he
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found out I found out the truth and and
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his lies were exposed I was fearful for
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my life this man is crazy and I never
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thought that he could do anything like
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that what he did someday I’ll tell you
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but right now it’s a it’s a cause of
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shame like I just said I’ve got to
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remember that it’s like absolutely
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normal for a narcissist to
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pathologically by they conduct smear
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campaigns and they gasp late flying
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monkeys and then they have a grand
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finale I mean there’s a million things
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are gonna do in the middle but the
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banners for at least they were typical
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that the people that are abused are then
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abused again because they’re smearing
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our name and and and the blame goes to
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you no matter what they did they are
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taking no accountability for this
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remember they do not take accountability
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did you think that your secrets were
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safe because you you were in love with
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this person I don’t know how many people
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that I have heard the stories of on
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YouTube and in in several groups that
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I’m in right now I don’t think that
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anyone got involved with a narcissist
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unless it was a parent or a child that
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they didn’t love you know we gave
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ourselves to this person persons we gave
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them our opportunity to be into our
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hearts we trusted
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and so for me this entire thing is the
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betrayal of a lifetime I mean a hallmark
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movie really that you just don’t see
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coming it’s like a movie that just you
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don’t see what’s gonna happen and it’s
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happened to all of us I’m not the only
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one and we have to remember they have no
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conscience and they cannot have any
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capacity for good to be I don’t care if
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they hurt you I think it’s actually like
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a high for them to tear you down or
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their smear campaign so that they can
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feel like they’re winning again
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narcissus connive to socially harm us
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and to invalidate the rights of their
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victim I think they understand that it’s
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morally wrong but I don’t think they’re
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ever gonna do anything about it they
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know it
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no they’re like laughing in its face
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could you see your narcissus like
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laughing at the the joke they just
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played on you I can
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narcissistic people get off emotionally
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it’s like psychologically based on the
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thought of putting more harm into you
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they have traumatized before and the
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behaviors or feelings of guilt that will
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cause you this I don’t have it after the
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initial discard states and your horrific
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grand finale and your head is kind of
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like still reeling what just happened
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when you’re in that state that
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vulnerable state oh my god right I mean
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why are not people thinking that we
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should be under the table crying rolled
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up in a little ball because what we just
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had was the greatest brain fuck that
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probably none of your friends have and
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so if they’re happily married they
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probably had never had this it’s like I
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swear the alien sent these Norse down
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here they’d tear apart at you and really
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just double brain fuck you because now
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what they’re doing is is they’re just
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going to make you more traumatized
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because as if it wasn’t enough but now
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all of a sudden they’re spreading rumors
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and telling your friends and some of
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your friends might tell their friends or
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your sister might tell your mother it
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just spreads it and and what that’s
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doing is it’s it’s breaking down your
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support system that’s why the dark is
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doing it and don’t think that they’re
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not going out there and telling
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everybody how pathetic you are that you
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can’t get over them and boohoo they were
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the victims oh no how many of your narcs
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go around telling everyone they’re the
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victim I can tell you both of mind you
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you have to remember you are not the
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first person they’ve done this to if you
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think they are that you are think about
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the people that are gonna come after you
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the next source of supply if you were
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the first one and they got you this bad
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what about when they go through ten
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twenty they’re just gonna get better at
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this crap they’re gonna know how to read
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people earlier they’re gonna have your
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friends picked out in a crowd when you
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introduce them as that’s somebody I can
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go to I think I’ll weave my way into a
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friendship with that person or a sister
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so that they can come after you and use
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those people that love you against you
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think of the person that they’re with
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next pray to God that this doesn’t
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happen again it’s only gonna get worse
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that’s why you know twenty percent of
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homicides in the United States are done
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by domestic partners so it’s only gonna
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get worse
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and here’s what I need you to remember
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thank yourself for having the strength
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to get away well there is your choice or
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not it’s your choice right now to get
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them out of your head and stop this
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madness because as they smear you
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they’re gonna feed your friends with
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false information and they’re going to
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hurt you even more they’re gonna act
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like the victim and they are actors the
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conmen I mean was there like a movie in
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the 70s like a TV show of con men why
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don’t we have more TV shows about con
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men they could be narcs Oh TV producer
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good idea remember when they tell your
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friends I always go back and forth when
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they tell your friend stuff about you
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they’re probably mixing him in with a
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little truth
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and what that means is unconditional you
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this story as an example I have a friend
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who knew my 3x and it was a male friend
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so 3x told him when he was smearing me
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that I was a really good storyteller he
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was telling him this little bit of
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information which I probably am a good
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storyteller but that made his lies
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believable because he’s telling them a
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completely different story so when you
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come back with your story and you come
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back with the the truth they’re already
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gonna know you’re a good storyteller I
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think just like he thought I was like
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the perfect thing for him to put in this
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person’s head that will make him doubt
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to my story
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it’s it’s amazing and what was that
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movie oh god I’m so bad at movies it was
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the one where the wife like state role
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murderer
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remember someone put it down below ever
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in the movie and and yeah
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he owned a bar and he was being accused
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of doing something but his wife was like
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really scheming this whole thing she’d
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banked his fake diary off again here you
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go it’s too late I have to stop talking
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so just be careful be careful of your
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friends don’t judge them if they get
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conned because remember you were conned
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by the narc and your friends are you
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know they’re deliberately targeted it’s
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not their fault just like it wasn’t your
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fault and I’m not saying go back and
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make peace with them right now
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I’m telling you to take time for
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yourself take time to not share your
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story take time now to learn because if
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you start repeating your story right now
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and you start telling your friends one
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after another
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you’re gonna feel more shame than you do
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now you’ve got to blame yourself more
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because you’re listening to the story
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again
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wait out your friends the good ones are
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gonna come to the top
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there’s always casualties of war don’t
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trust me we were just in a narcissist
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abuse war don’t think of yourself as a
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victim I’m taking that word out of my
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vocabulary except for you guys I’m a
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survivor and I encourage you to be as
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well it might take a while
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keep this education up and you will be
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stronger for it and you’ll understand
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more with understanding comes huge power
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to forgive yourself so forgive yourself
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for whatever happened
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it wasn’t your fault what you did was be
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a good honest keeping caring loving
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person
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vulnerable and you were targeted it’s
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just like a hit man it’s just like a
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robber who’s gonna rob your house they
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target you in the grocery store so be
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careful take care of yourself honor
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yourself and the smear campaign it’s
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gonna happen when it’s time you’ll be
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able to tell your story when you’re
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ready when you know your story better
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because you’re studying it and you’re
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learning and you know it you weren’t so
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crazy
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