Learn more about Narcissist Stalking 2017. If you think about it the narcissist began your relationship by stalking. We kindly call it lovebombing but they stalked and hunted you to get what they wanted. The other side of stalking is by far the scary kind of stalking. Arriving at your job, parked outside your home, emailing, social stalking. Stalking is a crime! A crime of control. Learn what should do if you are stalked.
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Hi, my name is Tracy and my channel was built to help other survivors
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understand narcissists abuse so if you are
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Questioning, whether you were with a narcissist, or what the behaviors are of a narcissist, then you’ve come to the right channel I?
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Am not a therapist. I am a survivor and
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tonight, I want to talk to you about stocking and the narcissist being stalked is scary and
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it’s like a violation to our personal space and
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We have to understand that this is very serious, and it is a Gateway crime
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to well much worse kind of outcome when I think of stalking I
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think the guys and girls I guess that jump over britney spears wall and
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You know break into her house and sniff around her where or something
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that is so typical in my mind because this was so out of the realm of of
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what I had known in my life, so that’s what I perceived was a stalker, but
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What I’ve learned is that 75% of victims of being stalked?
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another know their abuser they know the person and
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That’s a really high number and yet the love are not really there. I don’t think
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Let’s start with that
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What is stalking?
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there are so many ways that people can stalk you and
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I think I only gotten worse in the age of technology and social Media and online
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Exposure to our entire life
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but it is a crime a technical go to jail Crime and
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It’s it’s a crime of control
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hatred so your narcissist can stalk you your family your
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friends and
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This usually happens when you go no contact
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Before that they kind of know the door is open and so they aren’t
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necessarily, but of course they could but as soon as they feel like they’ve been rejected and if they feel like
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You have betrayed them. This is in their mind now, not mine. Okay. I know that I have been stopped and
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There are so many ways so let’s talk about all the different ways that
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They can stock they can stock us in person they can appear where we get coffee on
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Every morning, or they can appear where you know they know you’re dropping off your kid and just sit in a car
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They can actually break into your house. So that’s of course like working and mentoring but
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If you were with them and they had a key or they knew where the one was hidden in the rock or something
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they could break in and
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they could
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Use that to gather intel on whatever. They are maybe trying to figure out about you
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Leave you little sign they can break into your car
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they can they can hurt your car there are people that put sugar in gas tanks and
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they can stock your pet and
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potentially hurt your back hurt so many stories about puppies and kittens that the narcissist has
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killed or had killed
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They can break into your mailbox and a lot of people don’t think about this especially if you all were together
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for
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maybe there’s a key again, not all mail boxes across the world have key if you had a key and
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they did and they could get into your mail they can use that to which holds your bills and
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if you don’t get them maybe you’re not the kind of person that knows that it always comes in on the 17th, so
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If you’re like me, and in that part just sort of like what they’re here, then I pay them
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But they can also use them to
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Ruin your credit so again if you don’t know that you’ve missed a payment, or if they are able to
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Use a part of your credit card to buy things online
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They can do a lot of different things with your money, and that goes back to financial abuse as well
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the first stealth about what they do and
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identity theft is something that a lot of victims have had happen where they just run up out these crazy credit cards and
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They get in trouble the victim has to bail themselves out and figure out and prove that they didn’t do it
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they can’t talk about work and
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That means they could be in the parking lot
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They could be just showing up
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and
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The most important thing that I think we need to discuss is social Media
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In today’s day and age with social Media
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Who can say that they haven’t stopped?
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Someone that they used to know
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Someone that I used to date. I think we can all honestly say that
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We have peaked rate
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before I knew what no contact was
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when when I’ve gone through my divorce yeah, I wanted to know all the intel I possibly cooked and
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That is not good. It’s bad path, but it’s a bad road to go down
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But it’s almost a normal reaction. I think in this day and age where we can
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Have all the taxes to so much information
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they can track who you’re with you they can see if you’re dating someone and
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You suck to be really careful most important thing is to remember to change your passwords
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If they had access to your Facebook before they could just be popping in there anytime
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but
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If you blocked I’ve said this before many many videos just block them
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They cannot stop you
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They will not see your posts if you respond to someone that they know they could have been
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before years and if you block them I supposed to unfriend them then
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They won’t see anything that you do the more doors
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You can close through a narcissist the better. You’re going to be
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Because they’re going to try every single door and they do this just to break in annoy
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oh
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They aren’t trying to get you back and some people think that they are there to
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brain fuck you and
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to cause you isolation and pain and
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they’re doing it because
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They perceive
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you leaving or
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Even if they did something that they are angry at you
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And all they want to do is continue to go on and hurt you and just one way
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that they can use flying monkeys against you think about that flying monkeys are a form of stalking if
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they tell their friends to
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text you or email you or message you on Facebook and
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those people are doing the stalking for him or her that’s
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exactly, what happens and
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It’s important to remember
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That not only should you block?
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That person, but you should make sure that you block
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anybody that’s a common connection because if I say you post a picture and
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Your name isn’t in it or something like that
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Maybe you were with your friend, and you know you were tagged, but it was on their wall if they’re still following your friend
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they can spy so I
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Did not realize that
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someone in my wedding party was still connected to me and I
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believe that person stalked me and gave intel to my
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Ex Family, so
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Don’t think of people as innocent until they are
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Innocent if you have a common plan to be really really now let’s talk about what to do
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if you are being stalked in any way shape or form even if you’re giving a glitter bomb in the mail or
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You are afraid if you are scared
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That that person could jump out of the bushes and hurt you
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Call the Police here in America. Nine-one-one works real good and
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you only have to tell them that you are freed and
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You can go into the courts and you can get a temporary restraining order that day
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Usually again, I’m not saying where you live, so if you’re in some far-off country
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I don’t know that that but here in united states. You can get a temporary restraining order that day and
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That’s a really good start
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but so many people that I have talked to
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The police don’t seem to react or care or protect
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the person that put the restraining order and
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And I find that absolutely
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ridiculous because um
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when I was
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going through my arrest and and all of that, I
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Have a restraining order on me against this person
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and I was afraid to go out because I was afraid he’d be there and
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I didn’t want to go to jail and so
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I
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believed that the police would help him and I believed that they would help you but
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Often the stories are event
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please just don’t enforce it, or they’ll tell the you know husband to go take a walk around the block or
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Lots of of police misunderstanding from the support world that we live in here
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But save eff save everything. I have a book about
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That I printed up
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every single message every single email and
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every single voicemail in this binder, and if I had to
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Give to my lawyer sure you take pictures if you see them outside your house
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You look outside the window and your kids are playing in the yard, and you see his car
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Or you see his car where you are and he’s not supposed to be there. I use he or she you know
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but
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Call the police tell them that you were scared tell them that
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You’re not comfortable and that you have seen them, but pictures work better
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It’s really really thirsty
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if you can save pictures if you can save every single thing that you have then
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When you suspect that they are stalking you or they’re back out there
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Or they’re you know sending you gifts at work that is harassment
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And that is control and that is there as a common ploy where they’re like
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just showing you that they’re there to put that fear inside of you and
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if the police aren’t going to help
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The only way that is going to work in your favor. Is that if you document everything and that?
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Every single time you call the police
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screw saving the evidence screw pretending and saying next time
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because next time he might she might like attack you rape you and
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Hurt you this is what domestic violence really is?
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So we have to remember that this is just a step to the Gateway of hell that
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many
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victims of abuse
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started off being stalked
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And they didn’t do enough about it, and if they don’t call the police every single time then guess what?
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That means that when you go back for a restraining order or you go to see a judge because it’s really a celery’s in it
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They’re not going to have a record of any of this, so if there are five police reports
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you walk into the court, and you will have a restraining order before you know it, so
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Evidence just do that. Take care of yourself. This is Tracy and
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Thank you for watching and please subscribe to my channel if you like it
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if
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You are looking for support. I have a website called
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narcissist abuse support calm and on this website
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There’s a tab called help for something like that that has all these resources listed by state
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That can give you help
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There are meetups in your area there are meetups here in the united states on I know for sure there are in other states
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But there are free support groups for people that have been abused by a narcissist
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it helps your sanity, so
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If you can get to something like that
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Look at meetup
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Calm my site has a listing of all of the ones in the United States
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and I have a Facebook group called narcissist abuse support and
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come join us there and
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Let’s see if we can help each other
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because together we
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This is Tracy and that is all I got
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