A new weekly series – three top narcissist tips I learned this week.
My name is Tracy Malone and I am a survivor of a lifetime of narcissist abuse which from a parental upbringing with a narcissist mother and a dysfunctional love basis I then choose two narcissist men to partner with. This series of videos is my three month journey of self awareness. I am not a doctor or therapist I am educating myself in a high volume of information from the internet and blogs, youtubers, victim advocate counselor, therapist, narcissist abuse groups x2, a womens empowerment group. In my need to learn I am doing what I do… which is to help others. It is with deep gratitude that I found the experts who are teaching me to find myself.
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hi there this is tracy and i have a
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couple of things that i have reviewed
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and taking notes on this week and I want
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to share these amazing insights with you
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some of them I have the people’s names
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written down but others i was driving
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and do not so the first thing I’d like
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to say is where I was talking about the
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bad things about the narcissus and all
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of the stages and all of the flags and
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all of the things that they do to us or
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that we are recovering from but this
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week I heard from Melanie Tanya Evans
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you should follow her if you haven’t
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listened to her on YouTube she is a very
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spiritual and very caring person so I
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would suggest that and very
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knowledgeable so this is what she said
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that this is an awakening the whole
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narcissist experience is the sole
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contact bringing our unresolved wounds
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to make our unconscious conscious so
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that we can free ourselves and be our
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higher selves I thought that was
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beautiful I wrote that Thank You Melanie
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um I also read that narcissus of course
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we know they can never love they have no
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emotions no empathy and yet they are
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known to do have this self-love I mean
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when people think of narcissus they were
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thinking about um you know people that
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just take too many selfies and look in
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the mirror or love themselves self-love
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I mean that’s just like the complete
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opposite of what we’re talking about
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here and I think that narcissus do not
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have self-love I think they are white
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full of hatred for themselves they they
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live a miserable life because they’re
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tempted with love they’re tempted with
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good things in their life and they never
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seem to be able to keep them and of
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course that’s there
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only self-fulfilling prophecy but they
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they don’t love themselves they hate
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themselves and so I think we have to
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remember that and I would love for
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people to you know make many more people
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aware of that I heard tonight from
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Richard grinning the Barton life coach
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okay he was talking about the difference
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between classic and covert narcissus and
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their projected self-image their
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projected self-image if you are a
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classic narcissist that they are so
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convinced that this protected that this
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projected self-image is them that they
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are convinced them I mean they don’t
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even know that they’re acting where a
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covert narcissus they they know that
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they’re acting they know that they are
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putting on the show and they are making
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it up so a covert narcissist it’s just
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the delusion and and the delusion is
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completely different than a classic so
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all right last thing and that I wanted
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to share with you that if if you’ve been
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smeared in a smear campaign by a
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narcissist the best way to explain to
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people that actually take the time to
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come and talk to you about it you know
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there’s there’s a little glimmer of hope
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with the people that get upset when
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someone talks bad about you those are
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your real friends those are people you
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want to trust those are a nice person
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that you want to explain yourself to you
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don’t have to explain what happened you
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don’t have to explain this to others
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that are going to judge you but the way
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to explain it is you can just say that
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my ex is very sick and I’m nice and you
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can believe whatever you want if you
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don’t know me you don’t know me
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and let them make the choice or in their
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reaction better yet you make the choice
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you you tell yourself whether they’re
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worth keeping s runs it’s time for us to
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stick up for herself and it’s time for
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us to realize that we do have a choice
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and it’s okay for them to go away so
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those are the three things i learned
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this week in my narcissist week and i
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wanted to share them with you thank you
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for all the great people that i’ve
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