The question is – do narcissists keep trophies ? of the people they have ruined. Most people say they believe the narcissist keeps something without emotion just a trophy. I share my story that is quite the opposite of most people’s my xhusband walked away from everything. It was much more work for me to get rid of it. He did tell everyone that I was a gold digger that stole everything. He used it to smear me and create flying monkeys out of my friends.
Typical narcissist behavior.
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Hi there this is Tracy and today, I would like to talk to you about the narcissist and trophies
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In a discussion yesterday in my support group we were all talking about
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Narcissists, and do they keep things that represents a
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Conquer right something that they have conquered us and I think
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Most people said that they do I think that we all were in agreement
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Pretty flowers they cannot put them right there. We’re all in agreement that
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Narcissists like to keep trophies to remind themselves of how much they got away with
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For me my input to that conversation was that my narcissist
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ex-husband
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definitely was
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unusual in the fact that
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he
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Walked away from everything, and I am talking everything
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I have had his baby pictures and
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His childhood memories that his parents said you know said here you go you have your own house you take this stuff
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And he didn’t want any of it. He didn’t want his clothes. He didn’t want the 15
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Laptops that he left here. I think we counted 30
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camera bags when I was having a garage sale
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Many of them with their tags still on them
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He was a Shopaholic and was never happy with whatever he had just bought
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he needed more he had been like this was his dream to be the best at everything and
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He thought that having equipment would change that and actually make him the best
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Photographer if he bought the best camera bag the best cameras the best lenses didn’t matter that you know
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People that we knew were making so much better
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quality pictures
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On a really old camera. It’s because they learned it. They knew about it
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They were smart and he just wanted to buy his way to the best
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Being the best at anything he could so when he walked away and he left all that stuff for me
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I think in his mind and in his family’s mind
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They were like giving me stuff like this was a bonus to me like I was suddenly going to have all this stuff
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Why are you complaining you have all the stuff?
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the stuff meant nothing and
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We went from like a 4,000 square-foot house
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That was our marital home to I went down to you know an 800 square foot apartment, and we had
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Four living room sets and I needed a couch I actually took the couch. That was the oldest
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And that was no part of the marital household. That was mine before I came to him
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but in all of this
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Having a garage sale and getting rid of everything that I owned I
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made about
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$600 that included selling things giving them away giving away entire wall units and giving away
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barstools and
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memories and
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equipment and things that
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Were things things I didn’t want or need yet to him
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It was a perfect excuse for him to tell everybody
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Then I took it off that I was a greedy
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You know manipulating bitch
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whatever else he wants to call me that I
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Did this on purpose I took his stuff when he walked away from it?
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But it was a really easy thing for him to do sacrifice these things because he could just replace them tomorrow
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Nothing ever meant anything
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But to him walking away from him
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It was the most empowering thing because he was able to get these flying monkeys and smear my name to friends
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And I had had forever
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Simply by telling them that I took everything and that couldn’t be more far from the truth, but
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That’s how my narcissist did it I know that
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3x
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Definitely has lots of trophies that are part of his house things that he took for me my son’s
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PlayStation and Xbox and other things that you know
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I’m sure don’t hold the memories or don’t hold any kind of emotional attachment to me, but I think that in his mind
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He’s like hmm. Got that from that but got that one
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they are trophies and
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We have to remember that
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that’s their baggage so let them have their trophies and
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another one that I wanted and was
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places places are part of our memory part of our history and
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We need to take them back we need to own them and not have them be
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Memories that were just with them if this is your favorite place to be put
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don’t let them take that away, and why am I putting this on a trophy video is because of
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Saint John in the Virgin Islands this has been my
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vacation spot forever
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A friend of mine owns a house there that I knew in high school, and he offers me the house
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Anytime I want it, and I traveled there with my ex-husband. I’ve traveled there with my son
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I have traveled there with 3x and
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3x had never been anywhere in the Caribbean he had never
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gone supposedly to tropical vacations, but
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What he did was
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Used my place my trophy, I took him to st. John and
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he turned around and
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invited Liz L on a vacation to st. John
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It was probably a month after we got back so bizarre
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Anyway, that’s all there. I’ve got to say about trophies. Yes. They definitely keep them and
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We don’t need trophies. We just need them out of our life
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So if there’s something that’s emotionally attached to you that reminds you of them put it away for now hide it get rid of it
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You will feel much
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cleaner much more
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Powerful by not having these things in your life
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And this is Tracy and that is all I got if you haven’t subscribed to my channel
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