When you are a child of a narcissistic mother the hallmark holiday of mother’s day is always hard. Cards and gifts seem wrong unless someone finds a card that says what WE really want to say to a narcissist mother.
In this video I will share the answers to questions most commonly asked about a narcissistic mother.
hi, Barry, this is Tracy and
Tonight, I am sort of getting this feeling
it’s may and Mother’s day is right around the corner and
I don’t know
About you whether you had a narcissistic mother I?
Did and I didn’t know it all of this whole discovery about my life is it’s kind of coming
to a head [here], and it’s it’s been about 18 months now since my mother passed away and
I was just sitting here and kind of thinking. I saw a commercial for
cards and and it flashed me back to
The difficulty I used to have to pick a card for my mother for her birthday, or for mother’s day. I?
think since I’m probably 18 and since I moved out I
usually saw her I
Would say two days a year for [a] lunch if that and um I?
Always wanted [to] have that mother and have mother’s day and do normal mother’s day things I
Loved my mother
In fact I clawed and clawed and spent my whole life
Get her to love me
Try to get her attention. I was like the shock-jock [of] the family when I was growing up
when my son was born
She lived in Mexico
I sent her a whole stack of pictures [of] my son
And I sent a picture of his dirty diaper
I printed it and and she opened them in front of her friends and was mortified
but that was the kind of humor that I
wished that she
Would have appreciated it. [I] have two sisters a stepsister and a stepbrother and
Stepdad and I have a son so I am a mother
At this time of the year for most of my life, I have felt like Motherless I
Kind of feel [like] it didn’t have a family. So when I was married to [my]
Ex-Husband his family became my family and
Now I know how incredibly crazy
His family is and that
that charade of
Mother’s Day Glee was all pretense
But I know for a lot [of] you out [there]
This is a really hard time of the year
when you have a narcissistic mother they
Treat you like crap
Make you fight for their love nothing is ever right?
Nothing, you can do is right nothing
You can say is right the person you married isn’t right the way you’re raising your children isn’t right?
and they’re really happy to tell you that and I don’t know if it’s because they
Want to beat us down or that they are so unhappy with themselves that?
Choose to mother this way. I know that when I had my son, and I know about you. Do you have a kid I?
Have gone so far to the left wing wing right wing of raising a child from what my mother?
was I try to do the complete opposite and
My mother would only criticize me and tell me that I was mothering my child and that
He was going to go off to [college] and be attached to my leg
she couldn’t be proud of me that I was a good mother and a cub scout leader and
Had a good time with my son. I read him books, and I don’t remember any of that with my mom my mom
Saw her mother get killed by her stepfather
murdered with a gun in front of her when she was like 12, and then she was put into dozens of Foster care homes and
Very often when she would leave her school
She [would] have to kind of take everything that she owned because she didn’t know if she’s going back to that house
so she lived in this fear and
Of course she had no role model, and so that is what I took
my entire life as the
cognitive dissidence of
What I wanted and [what] she was and why she was this I post this to you I?
think we have a Choice [I]
Know I could have been her as a mother I could have
Just let my kid play. I could not care if he fell I could
Be completely self-absorbed
But I chose chose to be a better parent, but don’t think that
Has anything to do with?
that has to do with me wanting to
be a better mother and
I’m not perfect. [oh], no, I
Love my child and I have given him a very good life, and I know that he knows that
he’s loved, but I’ve made mistakes and I know that my
we called 2x I
Know marrying him now really screwed up my son
it was too soon after [I] had divorced my son’s father and
Was his stepfather for 10 of [eighteen] years
[then] never talked to him again, and I know my son blamed me [for] that
He almost wanted to drop out of college [for] the first two years. He was pissed and angry
I’m so afraid that the things that I have done
Loving and falling in love with the wrong people in my life because I was used to this abuse by my mother I
Worry that it’s going to ruin him in some way I’m worried that
He’s not going to know how to love I
Know that mother’s day is a hard time for all of us, and this is what’s coming up for me
so I just thought I would share it with you and
Just see if anyone else has these feelings if you’re the mom with a narcissist was really hard this time of year
some of you might have to go to like Mother’s day dinner at their house and
You know it’s a credit great day for you, so I?
Would love to know how you handle mother’s day
This is tracy. That’s [all] I got a great night