Narcissists Cheat – Look for these signs & protect yourself

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I often hear the question of does a narcissist cheat? or why do narcissists cheat? what is cheating to you or i is different with a narcissist because they have no commitment in their sick little minds, so spreading the love is really just “getting supply”. They have shown you signs and you might have missed them or you might have listened to their pathetihic excuses, or if you really have a gem of a narcissist he probably blamed you for them cheating!!! THIS IS NEVER EVER TRUE – a narcissist cheats to always keep new supply in the wings. learn how to recognize the signs and how to protect yourself.

WEBSITE – resources for victims – https://narcissistabusesupport.com

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hi there this is Tracy today I want to

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talk about narcissists and cheating I

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hear all the time people are always

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asking if they’re cheating and we have

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to look at their personality traits and

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get a deep understanding of how they

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relate to the cheating aspect because a

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narcissist is selfish they’re entitled

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they’re very self-focused right they

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only care about themselves they don’t

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necessarily even care about their

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children except to be used as pawns in a

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cover of some fake life that they’re

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reading so a narcissist generally is so

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selfish that they don’t make really good

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sexual partners there they’re demanding

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to what they want to do it’s their time

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it’s their schedule and they’re there

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very often over sexual that their needs

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are not being met with one partner even

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though they they pretend that they are

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to that partner when you’re getting when

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you get involved with a narcissist of

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course you’re not knowing it’s a

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narcissist but when you get involved

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with someone that it just seems too good

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to be true there’s a very good chance

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that it isn’t true

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that they love to you and you thought

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that everybody thought you were the

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perfect couple so how could he cheat you

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this was the answer to your prayers this

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is your soulmate this is this is the man

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of your dream of a fairytale it’s Prince

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Charming for God’s sake how could you

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think that Prince Charming he’s with me

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all the time he’s never with someone

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else

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well that isn’t always true and

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depending on how skilled your narcissist

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is in this cheating arena they may have

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spent decades hiding what they’ve done

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and it’s generally not just with one

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other person as we may find out about

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that person right in my case I found out

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about three at the same

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time and that’s all we knew about I

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think that this person just had them

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everywhere every city city lock his

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phone do you not have the password if

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they’ve got the password to your phone

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em you don’t have the password to thier

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phone maybe it’s their work show and

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they say great my ex-husband had always

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had a work phone but how would I know if

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this was his personal phone and this was

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really a business phone couldn’t this be

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a fake second number and the real

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business phone is number three or maybe

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he doesn’t even need to carry it they

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play so many tricks and you everything

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will be hidden you won’t see another

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phone bill you won’t see dinner expenses

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they’re very stealth at this but what

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you will start to see is hints and

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things that make you suspicious they

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date they hit you in your gut you feel

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it you feel icky and when you feel icky

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and you suspect them what kind of proof

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do you need that he’s still cheating

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what say you found out he cheated any

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swore that he would never do it again

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any um you know Hoover back in and what

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more proof do you need phone down that

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is she I had a friend um let him say

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where she lived but she put a tracking

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device on her boyfriend’s car and then

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after having a phone conversation and

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then both saying oh they’re tired

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they’re tired he was going to go to bed

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she she watched the app she watched him

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leave the house after their call and go

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off her restaurant and she phoned him

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there it was not a good thing why do we

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need to torture ourselves to prove isn’t

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it enough that they she did once did you

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cheat once no

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perfectly normal thing we don’t the

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reason we were victims and we were you

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know a really good supply to them is

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because we took their stuff we took

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their shit we took the abuse and we have

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no boundaries so as soon as they know

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that you have boundaries like okay

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here’s a really good example

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you know they cheated on you see who

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were to back and then you said I’ll give

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it another chance because they promise

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we promise promise not to cheat again it

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was an accident

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they didn’t mean it we were naive and

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you know we’re not the only ones but

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they are skilled and they lie so lying

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and cheating go to jeopardy see online

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genie it’s like oh so we have to start

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to look at other things and that is

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boundary that if my husband my boyfriend

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my girlfriend my anything cheats on me

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what’s my boundary it’s okay you get one

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shot two cents maybe the average person

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goes back to a narcissist eight times

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and that’s not necessarily cheating but

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I would wonder where those numbers came

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from because a lot of them cheat and

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that would be a really good reason to

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break up with them right I have a story

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about 2x and this woman that he

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supposedly had been in a relationship

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with for me and to my knowledge he got

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her pregnant and his parents made them

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give up the baby and break up this is

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the power of crazy rate whether it’s the

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true story not this is just a story I

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was told and so if it’s you know not a

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true story I can only report on my

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knowledge as I heard

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and when I was told and so this person

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when we first got married he said he

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needed to buy her a new mattress and he

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sent her two thousand dollars out of our

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checking account and I thought I was

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like really bizarre and if this person

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was truly his friend and now why

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couldn’t I talk to him I’d met other

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friends his high school friend that was

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a girl and I met her and when you meet

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someone then they’re not a threat if

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they keep them hidden there’s a reason

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there is a reason why they’re hiding

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them and this person would call him on

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his birthday and you know usually like

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holidays the phone would ring at her

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phone number her name would come up on

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screen and I was like well why can’t I

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saw her why can’t I say hi you know I

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mean have her over for dinner for God’s

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sake

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just what what you know and he never was

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even a time when we were away on

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vacation and it was my birthday and the

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phone rang I mean we are like in the

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middle of the frickin ocean and this

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girl was calling him and he just you

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know hope sorry and he stopped the call

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and it has occurred to me now that that

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might have been his cover name for

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whoever the slut was that he was

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sleeping with plot idea I mean that the

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person that he might have been sleeping

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with he just put their phone number in

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under her name because he’d sort of like

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set the boundaries with that name and

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and that name he sort of said you can’t

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do anything about this name I’m not

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going to share you with her she’s my ex

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and all of this stuff but think about

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that isn’t that triangulation why didn’t

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I know it right the weirdest part I’m

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going to be done in a second was one

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time we were on vacation with six

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friends in Disney

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and we were walking around Epcot and the

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girls were sitting outside and the boys

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went into a store and one of the

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husbands came running out to the wife

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and said ah she’s in there oh my

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goodness she’s in there with her mother

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and her brother and my ex-husband came

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flying out and ran to like if you’ve

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ever been I’ve got two whole countries

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further than where we were all sitting

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and we’re texting and like where the

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hell are you and it was such he’s like I

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didn’t want her to see me I’ve gained a

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lot of weight I think that that real

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girl was there because the friend’s

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husband knew they knew them before so

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all of a sudden the real thing like now

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I might come face-to-face and now I

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might learn that that name on the phone

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wasn’t ever real and all those

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late-night calls and texts to work and

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all of this bullshit was really just

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covering up this fake person and we have

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to really think about these things we

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saw signs I did I just chose to ignore

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it and I chose to not have boundaries

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you know this is not acceptable you know

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I I don’t care if you have friends from

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your past I think that’s great but now

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we’re a couple we should be friends

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together that makes sense the idea that

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you can’t like know the other person

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these are signs these are signs and we

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need to stop this cycle on ourselves and

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stop saying well how do you know it’s a

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narcissist and and and maybe how what

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should I do

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should I chase him should I stalking

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should I hire a PI if you know you make

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the decision right now

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what are your back

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under ease because if you know about one

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there’s probably four that you don’t

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know about so this is Tracy be careful

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out there watch for the signs text

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late-night calls phone’s going off and

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hidden things watch for the signs

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because narcissus almost always cheat

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they’re not satisfied

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no one can satisfy them because this is

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JC that’s all like

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