I just had a sort of flashback, something that went thru my head, my x husband lovebombed, devalued, and discarded my own child. I never thought of it this way before. What better way to win your heart then pretending to love your child. They may buy them things or offer to help out trying to show you they will be a great parent.
Our kids are easily taught and usually sadly easily bought so the process usually works exactly as the narcissist wants.
THEY USE YOUR CHILDREN TO GET TO YOU!!
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Hi there. This is tracy and tonight. I wanted to talk to you about something that I was talking with a friend about today and
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while we all know that narcissus
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love bomb us they love bomb us in the very beginning to
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win our love and affection and show us everything that we are looking for but
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Something that we don’t often talk about at least I haven’t seen very much of it here on YouTube is
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when a narcissist
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comes into the life of
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a single parent
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whether it be a man or a woman if someone comes into your life, and
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Not only are they love bombing you
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But their love bombing your children
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Has this ever happened to any of you?
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my ex-husband
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Narc to icon
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He loved bombed me, but left bombed my son so [much]
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You know reading him stories at night?
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just
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Doing really cool
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things that
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Made me bond with him and he made my son Bond with him
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they’d be outside in the snow and we can a snowman and
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No matter what it showed me. He loves my child and
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even though I I
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Was Perfectly capable of taking care of myself?
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He won that extra notch on the belt. You know what I mean like he just
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It was enough to make
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Me realize that I want somebody that’s going to be this
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interactive somebody that wants to have a
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Nine-Year-Old have a
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two-thousand-Dollar
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Halloween party, and I guess I was out trying on Halloween costumes tonight which
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triggered like
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Halloween and then and then for some reason I went flooding back there my
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2x wedding anniversaries in just a couple of days, so there’s a few things on my mind, but
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when I thought about that, I thought about how he
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threw this party for my son, and it was so [over] [the] [top] and
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there
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There’s just no way that anyone could be that way all the time
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He tried to be he tried to me for a really long time and now if I look at
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his Behavior towards my son later in our marriage I
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Thought it just kind of equal doubt you know, but it’s it’s probably more that it equaled out
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because
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That love bombing stage of my child was over too. It wasn’t that he was now [tan] or whatever it was
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It was that he was going to into the devalue state with my child and I never even realized this
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so when he went through and
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Told me on the telephone
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That he wanted a divorce and never talked to my son again
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That was his discard of my child I
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Always thought you know it sucks that my child was affected this way
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But I think now and now that I understand the steps
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It’s it’s like holy shit
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how did that happen that’s exactly what he did he went through the you know idealize and
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the D value and the Discard change not only with me, but with my kid I
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never freakin figure that out
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So I encourage you to think about the narcissist in your life. If you’ve got kids, man, or female
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if
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someone came into your life, and just adored crazy adored your kids like like
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they didn’t have an adjustment period They just went full on and love them a
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Would you put a chalk mark next to Ernie yep? That’s a good time check that off in the box. How about?
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If you didn’t have money to support them
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and you were worried about that and someone steps in and
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Buys your kid new sneakers or take some of them two things
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think about those things think about what happened if you have a child involved I
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Want to want you to know and think about is that?
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No matter how old your child is or was
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Even if we didn’t see the abuse our kids are affected
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and we just have to
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Give them the tools to understand
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And try to guide them in the right direction
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So narcissus love bond children too. So one more point for them in our book
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But if you notice that just beware okay, thanks
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