Narcissists use pets as pawns. Triangulate, steal pets love or love pet more. Pets are also scammed by narcissists. The can use the animal to hurt you, either by ignoring you or by abandoning you because the narc is trying to be so nice. It was to isolate you. My mother loved her dogs better than any child or person.
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Hi there this is Tracy and tonight we’re gonna talk about
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your pets and a narcissist and
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I’ve done some research on this and I’ve got some personal experiences to share with you, but I
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Want you to first know that?
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I’ve seen a lot of videos and a lot of material out there where
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People are talking about the either love your pets or they hate your pets and what I want you to understand is
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that like a
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narcissist
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Any particular thing can be on the spectrum so they can be the ones? That’s
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your pet or love your pet or love their pets so
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It can it can go anywhere in between and you have to know that
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Just by listening to the different stories
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You’re going to relate to something if you’ve had a pet in your life while you’ve had a narcissist
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If you look at the way that
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They can harm you with a pet
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Think of if you are someone that has a pet cat dog goldfish. I don’t really care
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If you have a pet that you care deeply about
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It can become a weapon to a narcissist because as we know they attack
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What we treasure most and it certainly isn’t going to happen in the beginning right because that’s the love-bombing stage
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that’s the stage when they are going to be morphing themselves into exactly what you like if
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You like dogs, and and you like
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Great Danes, that’s perfectly fine with them when in reality
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They can’t hold the responsibility of having a pet. That’s one way right the other way is is if they
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Take on this pet dog or cat or whatever
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To being like their child it is more important than any other human
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And if you’re in a relationship with them, it’s more important than you
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I’ll use the example of my mother my mother
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Has always had dogs, so I grew up with dogs mostly cocker spaniels and and little dogs
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I never had a big dog, so I wouldn’t I don’t know what to do with one
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There are certain types like golden retrievers that I just take – they’re soft. They’re warm. They’re kind
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But I have fears over big dogs like Dobermans and German shepherds
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They can sense that I’m not comfortable with it and and they rightly um
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try to
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Show their aggression towards me, and I think that’s always stopped me from
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wanting a big dog and
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They can be cruel to your animal in so many ways they can let your pet out
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when it’s
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Unsupervised and just leave it that are and then claim they they didn’t know anything about it
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They can love bomb your pet and turn the pet against you
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I’ve seen that happen where you know you love the pet
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But they’re going to do everything they can so that it creates a jealousy. It’s trying you leaving you with your pet and
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The more that you’re loving your pet the more that they’re going to
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Use this pet against you in the end
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In the beginning they’re going to you know play with your dog play with your cat
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Everything’s going to be fine, but then one day they’re gonna wake up
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they’re not one gonna win any cat hair and the cats doing this and they could just like throw like a
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Narcissistic rage at the pet when the pet did nothing the dog was barking and they lose it they have no
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Patience, and if you are giving the pets more attention than them that’s going to be jealousy it’s simple
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They’re just going to – not like the pet because they have to compete against it a couple of examples, so
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as I started to say before my mom always had a pet always had a dog and
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So I mean I can remember the animals were more important that my sister’s a tie
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My mother took her dogs to the dentist
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Set them in her lap took them into the grocery stores and took them on planes
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Pretending that the dogs were you know safety dogs, or you know
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Dogs that were allowed on planes
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medical dogs
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and
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What she was doing was she was creating a jealousy between me and my sisters and the doc
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Which if you look at my life later in life
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I’ve always had cats but
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I think I was pitted against the dog for so long that I
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Became jealous, and I didn’t give all I knew that I couldn’t give all
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my ex-husband’s family
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had
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Dobermans big big Dobermans that was their like security system for the house and
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The father would take the dog to get trained and they had electrical collars, and he had a buzzer
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and he could electrically shocked the dog if the dog was going to close to the edge of the yard and
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And this was like a common practice with them the dog was very aggressive the dog
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Didn’t like me and as soon as I would come into the house. He would growl and
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bark and scream
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and I would be afraid to walk up the stairs at the house because the dog would be there and
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like dripping from the mouths and
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You know all they would do was like whoa boom get away
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They bent this dog with their hand they no meal did this dog ever have to eat out of a bowl
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they would wash it in the bowl and then hand feed the dog and
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They were showing how important this dog was to them and and how unimportant?
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Both my husband and his sister and ultimately us were to them compared to the pact
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My ex-husband always said he wanted a dog we had a cat. He bought two cats when we first met and
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He always said he wanted a dog, but I
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Knew from his behavior that he wouldn’t even remember to take out garbage or change a tissue box or a toilet paper roll
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that if we got a dog that I would be doing all the work and
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frankly I
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Don’t want that responsibility at this point in my life
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So the very first thing he did when he got his new supply
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which I think is his new wife was they got a puppy and
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They she kept trying to friend me on Pinterest and Facebook and all these things and she would be showing pictures of the
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puppy
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Living it mommy and daddy’s house his parents house
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Look we have a new puppy, and so you know rubbing it into my face everything about
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This dog to just say see I got a dog in you stopped me. Well. I never stopped him
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He just never did it, but now it’s to blame for him not having it talked so they can use them against you
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They can show the dog or cat more love than they show you
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They can hurt the animal what I want you to know and I want you to remember is
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Dogs and cats are very smart
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Watch how they interact with your narcissist see how they treat
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Your person your narcissist right are they do they like them
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Or do they back away and are they scared of them. I had a cat once
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And I had a roommate
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This is going back a long time ago
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But she had a boyfriend that would come up on the weekends and my cat who was like the sweetest thing in the whole world
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My cat did not like this guy and of course. I was not knowing what he did when I wasn’t there but
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Every time he started doing at my cat
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When this guy would come over first he pooped in his luggage
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They’d left it open and the cat went in pooped if you’ve never done anything like that and never ever since then
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And then the second time he did something
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was he pooped right on their bed and again not the normal cat behavior, but
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He knew that this guy was a jerk
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Um you know we just have to watch for our pets reaction to them as well because they’re gonna show us if we just listen
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So this is Tracy
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That’s all I’ve got a narcissist and our pets if you would like to learn more about narcissist abuse. I have a
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Website and I also have a and I’ll put the links below. I also have a support group on Facebook and
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We’re growing. We have about 350 so members now, so we invite you to join in the conversation and
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That would be fun to see you so I look forward to hearing from you, and that’s all I’ve got. Thank you
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