Narcissists stalk twice actually in the beginning and in the end. There are many reasons they stalk their x’s but the pure evil in these people get pleasure from torturing a victim. if you have been involved with a narcissist a intimate partner, a family member you know that they can be dangerous. But if they start to stalk you often times police and officials are unable to stop them. Watch this video to understand exactly what to do if they decide to stalk you. Tracy
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You look like you’re fun you could actually do that not on the movies only on camera hi
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This is Tracy and this is the cell how are you and we are here on?
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The new moon thing right no super moon full moon not there women yeah super moon day
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and we’re making another video as you know mozell and I have been together for a few months and
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Hanging out getting to know one another
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but she leaves in just a few days and so we are gonna make some movies tonight and
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See if we can have them to deliver to you while she flies back across the world yes indeed
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It’s all be public
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Yes, so what are we talking about today today? We’re gonna talk about
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Stalking keep getting a lot of emails a lot of communication through Facebook Twitter
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Meetup groups and all kinds of
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support groups online and
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People get stalked
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In a million different ways and you know in a way you know
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It’s it’s we think stalking and we think someone’s like following you to your house
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There outside your house if you’re you know Britney Spears, and they’re taking pictures or something we think of that as the traditional stocking
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but stocking can take so many different types of
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Yeah, totally please and I guess also now with with the advent of Advent. I mean already we’re in the throes
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we’re in the fourth row of social media and
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And with social media our accessibility to people and people who we don’t even know that well is so much closer and so much
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More, it’s more readily available to us so
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I want to say something about that as well a couple of things the first thing
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I want to say about that is what you hear on social media. Oh my goodness guys
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This is the highlight reels and the things that people wish to feed you even if you’re an insanely good person
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And you’re just you just go about your Facebook in a normal way
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We tend to give people the highlights of our lives. We tend to give them the good stuff like we change
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Yeah, we tend to give them the things that we want them to see in Casey’s try in Tracy’s case. It’s like cupcakes
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You know she’ll put a cupcake on there
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But the thing is we tend to feed people what we want them to see now if you know somebody is watching
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You that you are not connected to anymore
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But they may have friends out there as we spoke about in the last
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video the flying monkeys the other people who are watching your movements and then reporting it back it becomes a case of
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Chinese whispers on top of the highlight reel and you are also able to feed
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Certain things into your Facebook account or your Instagram account that
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then gets relayed on so if you are watching a feed of
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Somebody or it’s you know you’re being told a story via a friend
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And you are starting to hear things that you don’t want to hear or or making you upset I?
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Will say this just from the counseling perspective and my perspective I would tell times this is
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back away from the computer
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Your friends that are feeding you that information on not truly helping you and if it’s a good friend
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And you’ve asked them to do that for you if I was a friend I would suggest
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No say, no say no
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I don’t think that that is good for you really gauge whether the information that you give that person is helping them or
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Hindering them and in nine times out of ten the cases
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They don’t feel good after seeing it hearing it or having you know even heard it from a third party so
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That is West I mean I know I veered off a little bit there, but that is a huge story
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Oh, yeah, a huge, lot I know
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But that’s that’s you know what we were sort of getting at with the whole stalking thing as well
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that is a very easily available to us kind of a way of
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Being connected to somebody we don’t want to really be near
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Right – and and for those of you. Don’t know me, maybe this is your first video that you’re watching of mine
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I am in the marketing and social media business, so I have been studying the
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behaviors of people on social media for a very long time and
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My best advice to you
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Then this this is up. This is a
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targets like
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Conundrum where they don’t know what to do
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When your relationship with a narcissist even if you don’t know if it’s a narcissist when your relationship is coming to an end
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Go on to social media and cut all your ties
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You block them you take that control you take the keys to that car
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because what can happen is something that happened to us this week and
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our
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ex narc
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has a new supply of course and
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We hope she’s watching this
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No seriously
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Yeah, he has a new supply
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And I was not aware of her name because I am truly blocked and I have no interest whatsoever
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but
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she
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blocked
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Rahzel on
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Instagram a few weeks ago, maybe a mom well there was a month, and you know I was like okay
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Well, she was stalking her and then she blocked her, and we just went good sure that’s all gone. She can’t watch my
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inspirational
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Spiritual quotes anymore oh no right. What was she planning on seeing?
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I don’t know, but this is the game we play it on both sides, so this is really important if you
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Are connected to somebody like that?
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She blocked us
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And then she had me look go and see if she blocked you am I cuter than we know who I am
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I went and I was blocked so
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What did that do that gave her that control all right now?
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This is this is a weird part, but she said no right so it’s like when someone’s getting raped
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They say no it means no right they blocked you you can’t counter block them at the same time
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Depending on them and there might be some of the networks
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I’ve never counter blocked anybody, but as they blocked us
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She had the keys to turn that thing on and off whenever she wanted to take a little peek
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Think of that the other day now when we were blocked by anybody anybody on Facebook. We blocked someone
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We don’t see their posts
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And we don’t see if if they commented on one of our mutual friends right in front of us or right after us
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We wouldn’t see it
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so
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The other day you woke up
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commenting on a friend of ours post
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There is her name well her name when he showed up. If she was really blocked so she unblocked us too pink
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Now to us. That could be that the
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Fella is having her peek and spy this is no no I didn’t he have he do something like that when I immerse
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incorrect just so you guys know if you haven’t seen us before Tracy and I
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Shared the same boyfriend at the same time, and we only found that afterwards so just so you know
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Yes, so so pretty much. I know it may sound strange to newcomers, but this is what happened video
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so yeah
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so that’s exactly right so when I was with him and
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and it was sort of towards the end of that all you know he would take my computer and look at
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Tracy stuff because she had blocked him, but not me
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So yes, I connected we can we kind of get the you know we kind of get how he thinks so it’s like okay
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So you don’t know if it’s her coming in to spy and maybe she’s reached a point where things are being
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Questioned with him maybe he’s doing the same odd behaviors, which he’s gonna. Do it’s just a matter of time
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Maybe he’s doing the same behaviors, and she like wants to know the truth probably not more likely. It’s that she
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Wants to see what’s going on and tell him whether he’s doing it himself or not so
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The best thing that we could have done was Wow guess what we took the game
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And we blocked her so now she can’t sit there and open the window and peek in anytime. She wants to so
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Even if you have friends that are questionable flying monkeys friends that have not been supportive
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blocked them if you unfriend them what happens is they have to refresh you if
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You’ve decided and you’ve talked to and you you are in a happier place with them
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you can always unblock them that puts the control in your hand does that make sense because if
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If you don’t take that control, and you don’t have that self-control
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Hmm to just say it makes me sad when I see this stuff
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And that’s what everybody I talk to says you know I saw him doing that or there
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I love doing this and I will serve a rock that that’s saying curiosity killed the cat is so true because
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It doesn’t make you feel better. It makes you feel like hell
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You don’t need to see
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Where that person is you don’t need to be reminded of things that you were doing with the certain the same things that you were
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Doing or not. You know you also then stop any
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Almost direct comments that are being fed for your purpose for your consumption
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They are put there for you to see mate. I mean they are not there
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I you know for oh look at me. This is what I’m doing
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They are there for you to see now if you want to play that game
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You know jump right on in and do that I guarantee you it doesn’t make you feel any better
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So you will not heal unless you completely go grey rock and I know this isn’t a gray rock thing
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But a gray rock is like a rock that doesn’t do anything
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You don’t see put a cover over your head and just don’t care
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It’s the only way as you’re healing that you don’t take two steps backwards so please
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just
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block them
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Everywhere that that’s you know my ex-husband his new
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Whatever she was at the time. I think it’s now his wife, but she was following me on Pinterest and she was like
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Putting things up there just to piss me off and and it worked obviously yeah
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Until I said we just yeah, I have the control. Yeah. Yeah, no, it’s important to take it back and
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And I think I didn’t think to add to that really then oh I do have something to add to that I know I know
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That a lot of you live in hope
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And what I mean by that is and you can deny it all you can accept it
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You live in hope off first of all the new relationship falling apart
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And that there might still be some kind of connection
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To you or some way of still because you loved that person right or you love that person
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Even though whatever they’ve done is really whatever
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There is a shitty yeah, and there’s still
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hope you still have hope you still hold hope and I understand how hope works however ah
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Chances are you’re not good, and you don’t want him. You don’t need them
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You don’t need but the chances are you’re not gonna get back together
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Right if you really want to give yourself the best opportunity for healing
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Cut it off cut it off and move on and out of a because
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It will not serve you in any way to be looking at anything that they are putting out for you deliberately
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That’s all week, I don’t ya know they don’t have your best intention in mind
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Okay, you have your best in mind look after you better
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Yeah, yeah, and uh, I learned something in church that says
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Faith is good. No. Hope is good
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But faith is better have the faith that you will be okay without that person
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Because you were before mmm and you’re gonna be stronger now that you’ve educated yourself
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Yeah, so faith is better than hope
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Peace out see you later bye-bye
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