Do we sound like a narc?
Hi there. This is Tracy and today. I want to make [this] video in Reply to a comment
that someone left on [one] of my videos about sisters and
they told me that I sounded like their sister who always played victim and
What I want to clarify is I?
was a victim and
So were you and so?
How do we tell the difference between someone a narcissist who is faking Victim?
Someone who was a victim and how [does] it sound to the world?
Because it sounds the same rate and and I look back at the three match tapes
I had many many many years ago and I
Sounded crazy. I didn’t understand all the stuff that had happened to me and
It was frightening to me, so I probably sounded like a victim and I probably sounded crazy
if we look at the narcissist and the way that they always play victim
They play Victim and so there’s holes in their story things that aren’t going to add up
the truth isn’t there for
me when I talk about being a victim of
narcissist abuse whether it’s with my mother my ex-husband his crazy family my ex-boyfriend [my] [sisters] [I]
Have truth to it and now I have words for it. So there’s a difference in
Understanding that when they play victim [they] could certainly use the vocabulary
But as I have learned that to identify the difference between someone
Victim and a real person [that] was a victim if we look at this and
We try to analyze
How we sound to other people we really have to be aware that we do sound like a victim now and again
But that we were and if we don’t go through victim as planned out there, and I’m not not going to be
We were victims
We have to get out a victim and that’s an important role, and it’s a fine line for me to cross
With making videos to help you and share with you parts of my story because people are always telling me [that] when I talk about
specific things that have happened in [my] life
[and] I didn’t understand them before and now this whole new lens thing is is helping me understand things that have happened
So for me to sound like a victim
It’s a great possibility because I’m now for the first time confessing what I?
Learned and what they didn’t know
So for the last 55 years or so you would have not heard me ever saying I was a victim
It would have never heard me say that people were doing wrong to me. That’s never been my mo
Confusion, yes, okay, Via
I have been confused for the last four years since my divorce and
I didn’t understand the attacks
I didn’t understand the anger and a crazy stiff stuff that happened to me but
How do we get past that?
so many people in
this recovery world get stuck and victim and a
Really good way [for] you to understand and and move out a victim is to
look within yourself and
you were a victim, but now you’re a survivor and it’s
The way we talk and [it’s] the way we speak and the education that [we] have behind our
story of abuse
Now we can
[2phi] exactly what their plan was what was happening and what?
[our] accountability was you see a narcissist, Ori is never going to have any accountability?
That’s it really in a nutshell
everything happens to them and
They did nothing wrong. Well I can say I did things wrong [I]
Accepted that behavior. I didn’t know better and
I think if we all look back
We can take accountability for our part in enabling them
Enabling my sisters by constantly helping them stepping in when they needed me being there which sounds to me like
Really good person, right?
That’s what I always envisioned myself as their their caretaker their helper
But I really was their enabler, and that’s where the accountability raised is I
Didn’t know what they were doing
But they knew what they were doing and they knew how to manipulate me
Now I can say I
Didn’t see it, but now I do [I]
Hope that makes sense to you, and I want you to look at the way that you talk about being a victim
[I] don’t want you to not say I’ve never been a victim. That’s bullshit
Or I’d move right past Victim Ni now Survivor forever because it’s a long journey
it’s a long confusion of
unraveling that the ties in our life that
[we] weren’t aware of the only way to not be effective again is to understand. Why you were a victim
What was your role? What did you do to enable someone to abuse you?
Were you codependent were you a trauma bonded person?
Did you just want to help everyone were you a people pleaser? There’s so many things that go [into] the
intricacies of our life
But it’s accountability. That’s in the end
We didn’t have a [content] accountability before I knew what was going on
and now I do now I can sit here and
clearly with the right words the right terms and
understanding in my own head
That I spoke victim
You wanted to be on camera, okay? Well, that’s all I got I just wanted to tell you that
We do sound like victims sometimes
But there’s a difference
accountability and being a hero good human person so
This is tracy, and that’s all I got please subscribe to my channel. [I] remember it again, and I’m getting better
Alright. Thank you so much, and have a great day
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