Do we sound like a narc?
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Hi there. This is Tracy and today. I want to make [this] video in Reply to a comment
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that someone left on [one] of my videos about sisters and
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they told me that I sounded like their sister who always played victim and
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What I want to clarify is I?
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was a victim and
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So were you and so?
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How do we tell the difference between someone a narcissist who is faking Victim?
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versus
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Someone who was a victim and how [does] it sound to the world?
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Because it sounds the same rate and and I look back at the three match tapes
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I had many many many years ago and I
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Sounded crazy. I didn’t understand all the stuff that had happened to me and
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It was frightening to me, so I probably sounded like a victim and I probably sounded crazy
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if we look at the narcissist and the way that they always play victim
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They play Victim and so there’s holes in their story things that aren’t going to add up
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the truth isn’t there for
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me when I talk about being a victim of
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narcissist abuse whether it’s with my mother my ex-husband his crazy family my ex-boyfriend [my] [sisters] [I]
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Have truth to it and now I have words for it. So there’s a difference in
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Understanding that when they play victim [they] could certainly use the vocabulary
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But as I have learned that to identify the difference between someone
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fake
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Victim and a real person [that] was a victim if we look at this and
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We try to analyze
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How we sound to other people we really have to be aware that we do sound like a victim now and again
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But that we were and if we don’t go through victim as planned out there, and I’m not not going to be
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[hello]
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We were victims
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We have to get out a victim and that’s an important role, and it’s a fine line for me to cross
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With making videos to help you and share with you parts of my story because people are always telling me [that] when I talk about
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specific things that have happened in [my] life
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[and] I didn’t understand them before and now this whole new lens thing is is helping me understand things that have happened
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So for me to sound like a victim
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It’s a great possibility because I’m now for the first time confessing what I?
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Learned and what they didn’t know
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So for the last 55 years or so you would have not heard me ever saying I was a victim
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It would have never heard me say that people were doing wrong to me. That’s never been my mo
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Confusion, yes, okay, Via
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I have been confused for the last four years since my divorce and
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I didn’t understand the attacks
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I didn’t understand the anger and a crazy stiff stuff that happened to me but
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How do we get past that?
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so many people in
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this recovery world get stuck and victim and a
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Really good way [for] you to understand and and move out a victim is to
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look within yourself and
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decide
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you were a victim, but now you’re a survivor and it’s
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The way we talk and [it’s] the way we speak and the education that [we] have behind our
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story of abuse
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Now we can
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[2phi] exactly what their plan was what was happening and what?
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[our] accountability was you see a narcissist, Ori is never going to have any accountability?
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That’s it really in a nutshell
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everything happens to them and
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They did nothing wrong. Well I can say I did things wrong [I]
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Accepted that behavior. I didn’t know better and
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I think if we all look back
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We can take accountability for our part in enabling them
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Enabling my sisters by constantly helping them stepping in when they needed me being there which sounds to me like
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Really good person, right?
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That’s what I always envisioned myself as their their caretaker their helper
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But I really was their enabler, and that’s where the accountability raised is I
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Didn’t know what they were doing
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But they knew what they were doing and they knew how to manipulate me
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Now I can say I
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Didn’t see it, but now I do [I]
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Hope that makes sense to you, and I want you to look at the way that you talk about being a victim
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[I] don’t want you to not say I’ve never been a victim. That’s bullshit
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Or I’d move right past Victim Ni now Survivor forever because it’s a long journey
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it’s a long confusion of
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unraveling that the ties in our life that
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[we] weren’t aware of the only way to not be effective again is to understand. Why you were a victim
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What was your role? What did you do to enable someone to abuse you?
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Were you codependent were you a trauma bonded person?
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Did you just want to help everyone were you a people pleaser? There’s so many things that go [into] the
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intricacies of our life
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But it’s accountability. That’s in the end
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We didn’t have a [content] accountability before I knew what was going on
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and now I do now I can sit here and
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clearly with the right words the right terms and
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understanding in my own head
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see
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That I spoke victim
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You wanted to be on camera, okay? Well, that’s all I got I just wanted to tell you that
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We do sound like victims sometimes
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But there’s a difference
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accountability and being a hero good human person so
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This is tracy, and that’s all I got please subscribe to my channel. [I] remember it again, and I’m getting better
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Alright. Thank you so much, and have a great day
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