Is there a way to protect yourself from the revenge of a narcissist? Yes know what to look for and learn to react different both in the face of the terror they are trying to pull but also protect your mind from allowing them to take control of your mind.
WEBSITE – resources for victims – https://narcissistabusesupport.com
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hi there this is Tracy and today I’d
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like to touch on a topic that is
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obviously very close to my heart and
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that is to how to protect yourself when
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your narcissist has decided that they
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want revenge on you and there’s so many
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people that I talked to that are being
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stalked or have had issues where their
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ex nark have come after them in some way
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shape or form whether it be destroying
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their property whether it be sabotaging
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you and smearing your name with your
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friends and your family that is
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certainly you know hurtful and pretty
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terrible but right now I’d like to
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address the people that have had either
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been arrested or people that have been
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threatened to have restraining orders
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put on them or or actually put on them
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because there’s a reason that the
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narcissist is doing this and it’s it’s
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sad but their goal is to make you look
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crazy make you feel crazy and to
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financially ruin a let’s just say you
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got some money in a divorce
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maybe you got support or child support
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the narcissist is pretty pissed off at
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you
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because in their mind none of this is
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their responsibility and they should not
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have to pay you they should not have to
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do what the law says because as you know
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a narcissist is above the law they don’t
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think that rules apply to them and so
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when it comes down to them having to pay
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you they generally don’t take it well
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and what I have found is that they turn
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to the law to use against you use
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against me and for those of you who have
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watched my channel you might have seen
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that
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my narcissist had me arrested last
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February and it was the most absurd
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thing in the whole entire world and yet
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he stands behind this accusation tries
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to pretend that I did something wrong
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and the system actually supported him
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because he was the victim I was the
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perpetrator I was the perpetrator that
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stupidly do not do this
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closer forget it don’t do it I wanted to
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see something else there did you see
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that um do you need closure with
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yourself you do not need closure with
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them I thought that this man that had
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already been cheating on me was in
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another relationship I said okay fine
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let’s be normal let me meet her let’s
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all be friends let’s have it be a normal
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thing people can get along with the new
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person especially if you’ve got common
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friends and you’re going to a party next
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week I thought it was just a nice thing
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to do to just have closure to say fine
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you know what good luck with your life
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and that is what I came to tell this
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gentleman no this jerk okay I came to
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tell him that I was forgiving him and
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just let’s be friends forget it good
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luck with your new person and he was so
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threatened by the fact that I was at his
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house uninvited when that had been a
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normal pattern of our life he had a
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freaking key to my house and could come
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over when I was on vacation he would
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just camp out at my house seriously
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doesn’t make sense when you look at the
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picture but to the police they do not
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care what happened they only care about
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that moment so I had somebody
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talk to me about a situation where their
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ex was stalking them this happens all
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the time you might come out of your job
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out of the building and there he or she
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is sitting in their car waiting for you
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maybe they’re sitting in the parking lot
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waiting for you
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this is stalking what they like to do
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then is bring charges against you so
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what I’m telling you is to be really
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diligent what I learned from this jerk
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in in his driveway that day was that he
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recorded me check your state and figure
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out if you are allowed to record
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conversations in Colorado only one
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person has to know that you’re being
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recorded so obviously the one with the
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recorder has that right if you have a
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narcissist or cluster B or sociopaths
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Psychopaths in your life and they are
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giving you any kind of grief record
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everything by now later if it’s legal
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and what you can use it for particularly
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if they’re going to try to claim that
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you are unfit parent bait them in a
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conversation and record it talk to them
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like you were their wife or their
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husband and and get them to say yes you
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were a good parent you love our children
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get that on a recording because when
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they get into an into court and they say
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this is a non fit parent this is child
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alienation this is all these things
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you’ve got that evidence and trust me
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you might need it because they will pull
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every punch and again why why why why
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why their goal is to make you look crazy
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their goal is to get that support to get
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that cut off and if you got any money
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they want to financially ruin you my
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nurse assist had me arrested and I spent
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ten thousand dollars defending myself
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and I wasn’t even
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me into court which would have cost 20
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to $30,000 for a trial to defend myself
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when we had all the evidence I just
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didn’t have $30,000 to fight so I want
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you to know that you have to protect
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yourself and you have to expect the
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worst it’s almost a year ago next week
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my mother passed away and I do believe
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full heartedly that I would not have
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been able to do this miraculous healing
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and this soul growth if she was still
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alive because a very big part of my
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puzzle of why I have chosen men that
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give me less than I deserve is because I
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got that when I was growing up and I was
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used to it and if my mother was still
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alive I don’t think I’d be able to do
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this deep digging you know not to
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mention that she would call me you know
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70 times from the hospital every day and
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there just wouldn’t be time for me to
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self reflect on the things that I have
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learned in this last year but when she
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died I was the executor of the family
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money and I have two sisters and a son
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that we’re in her will as well and my
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narcissus came to me right after and
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while he had borrowed $10,000 from me in
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2015 he came to me after my mother
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passed and he needed
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$6,800 he actually had a shopping list
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of things he needed you needed his car
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fixed it was like I was his mother he
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said they’re going and I need this and
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of course he’s crying crying it’s very
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big right I this deep this and I really
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have to pay off this and this person
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gonna sue me and all of this stuff and
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he wanted $6,800 out of my mother’s
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estate and he wanted to write a
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fake invoice and I’m pretty sure he’s
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gonna watch this video so you know who
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you are
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and you cannot deny this wish to God I
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had it recorded he wanted me to give him
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the money and give my estate a fake
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receipt for things that he was doing to
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help the estate but then he wanted me to
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steal for my sister’s on my son and when
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I said no I’m pretty sure that was his
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key that the hook he had in me that he
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had taken money from me all year long
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that hook he knew the gig was up and at
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that point our relationship changed I
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didn’t give him the money so he was
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going to ruin me and and I’m sorry to
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say that he didn’t it certainly took the
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wind out of my sails and you know almost
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a year later I’m out of domestic
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violence classes I’ve just finished all
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of my community service that much of it
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I had to do after church on Sundays all
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summer long
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I would watch a beautiful day and leave
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Church and head over to do community
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service I’m almost done with all of the
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horrific things and being on probation
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did you know what cost money to be on
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probation you have to pay them every
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single month the whole thing is just a
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crazy-ass system in domestic violence
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classes over the six months that I was
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there we probably had 30 or 40 people
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come through different times some people
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had to be in it for a year some people
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had to be in it for a few months
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some people just disappeared I didn’t
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know where they were where they came
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back from but I learned that this
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happens all the time
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narcissists will do everything they can
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it doesn’t matter if you’re the mother
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of their children that’s all the more
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reason for them to do that
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is to show people that you’re crazy try
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to get that support reduced and try to
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renew so be careful mothers of their
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children doesn’t matter
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fathers of their children I’m not gonna
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you know sit there and say that I know
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much about because I wasn’t in a male
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domestic violence class I was in a
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female domestic violence class and these
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were professional women like myself
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business owners people that have worked
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their whole life to defend their honor
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to be the right person and do the right
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things and always care they don’t like
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that so they attack attack attack so be
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careful if someone is doing things that
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don’t seem right record them take out
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your phone add a recording app if you
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don’t have one on there and record it if
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you never use it to send it to a cloud
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somewhere to save it because if they
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pull punches out later you need to have
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that information does that make sense
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this is not something you want to fool
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around with this is not something that
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you want to think the better of them
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with chances are they’re already
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recording you I heard from a friend the
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other day that’s who she’s divorcing her
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husband and um she came over there to
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talk to their house she left she was
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late hurry I’m out of here sheshe took
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it on herself and didn’t stand there
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holding down the fort I want to be here
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she left she came back to talk to him
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and she wanted to talk in their kitchen
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this is where she’s lived for the last
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20 years now he wanted to go into the
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basement he wanted to go down there
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and she didn’t want to she knew it would
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be cold she had no interest he said
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don’t worry I thought of that so
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consider it I put a blanket down there
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for you
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she’s stupidly went didn’t listen to her
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gut and her instincts
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and he had the whole entire room wired
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for sound he recorded the whole thing
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she didn’t say anything that would
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incriminate herself or do anything she
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was talking about the divorce but he was
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bathing her this is what they do you
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don’t even know that you’re being baited
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because you don’t know you’re being
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recorded so any conversation whether
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it’s legal or not I don’t care this is
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my advice out of personal experience
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record them
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don’t be naive to think this person that
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you’ve been with for a month or twenty
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five years is going to be honorable
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record it and protect yourself and
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really be careful because all they want
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to do is ruin you this is Tracy if you
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like my videos I would really appreciate
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it if you subscribed um and if you have
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comments please leave them below I’m
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happy to talk to you and help you
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through these situations in any way I
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can
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I’m not a therapist I’m a victim that
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has learned the hard way and I have a
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voice and I’m not going to stop using it
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because it is not about what happened to
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me it is not about my relationship it’s
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just about what I’ve learned and how you
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need to protect yourself so this is
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That’s all I got thanks
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