Narcissists are people and they have jobs which means you might have employees that are narcissists and they will ruin and use people. Learn the red flags and learn how to support an employee that may be a victim. how to spot a narcissist at work
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Hi, this is Tracy and today. We’re going to talk about narcissistic bullies at work. What you should know?
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let’s start with red flag number one
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our cysts are very charming and they use this term to attrAct and
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Get people around them that are going to praise them and raise them higher there are also like spiders in a web
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searching for their next prey
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the Red Flag number [two] a
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Narcissist can be a boss or co-worker and employee or a victim of a narcissist at home or at work?
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Hr. Departments must understand how to recognize behaviors and patterns and
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understand the red flags that
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They need to be mindful of to help keep peace in the office
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Victims need you to understand
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Red flag number three the [worrying] to Hr. [departments]
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human Resource departments must learn to [identify] these patterns and behaviors and signs of abuse and a plan and
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Policy must be put in place to protect
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people [from] becoming victims [at] your business
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Often victims are not believed when they speak up because a narcissist has created allies that will revitalize the victim
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the flag number [four] believes at work
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Fixed a bully in high school. They always want their way that could be pushy and demanding
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And anyone that gets in the narcissus way will be
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Destroyed in a work environment teams will be split and division occurs until ultimately
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the Victim leaves of Their own accord
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red flag number five the self-absorbed narcissist
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Narcissists are self-absorbed watch for this behavior at meetings
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If someone has repeatedly must be in the spotlight and will not listen to other people’s [opinions]. You have a problem
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red flag number six
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The thing one thing that helps leaders rise to power is the ability to not take other people’s crap
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This characteristic is common in a narcissistic person because they cannot feel empathy watch for signs of a seemingly
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Emotionally closed person that cannot feel for others
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red flag number seven inconsistency in stories
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Narcissists are pathological liars. They [will] lie to everyone
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often using lies and fake stories to ruin a Victim’s career
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Watts for inconsistency in stories as the two versions are told
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Schlag number eight
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Narcissus [do] not like to be told that they’re wrong if you have an employee that acts up and creates trouble
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Because their ideas weren’t loved by all you might be dealing with a narcissist they often use childlike behaviors like throwing tantrums
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yelling threatening and
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manipulate decisions to get their way
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narcissists Red Flag number nine
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Narcissistic term is one of the masks or roles that they [play] they are great
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Actors often using acts of service and tales of what a great person they are to convince you how special they are
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People a narcissist once close to them for some type of supply will only see the best person role
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While people that are deemed, not helpful to build them up will have a completely different view of them
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This is the true self, and we call it when the mask falls
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That stand down please subscribe to me if you haven’t subscribed yet number 10, red flag bullies at work
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actions do speak louder than words
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Remember this when you’re dealing with a possible narcissist [if] someone spends time convincing you or selling you that [they’re] brilliant
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Always write or even kind watch for these behaviors. Do they actually match a
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Truly Smart and kind person shows these characteristics and does not need to boast False claims
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red flag number 11 the fake family
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Remember just because of Narcissus or the family
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It doesn’t make them automatically good often families are used as a cover to the evil lives that they lead
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Abusing the family is key to their survival
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Abuse and fear tactics are tools that they use to control you
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Having pictures on the desk should not automatically be assigned to trust them don’t be fooled
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This is right out of the handbook on how [to] use family as a cover
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red flag number
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12 A
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Target is a person that the narcissus has identified to have supply or a value that they need
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Supply can be good for them like someone [who] can advance their career these people see the charming self of the narcissist
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Supply can also be someone that they ruined
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It’s like a sport and they get power from destroying this victim, and it’s fuel for their fake existence
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Red Flag Lucky 13
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Narcissus can be men or women but statistics show [that] more men have this disorder
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Understand that men are less likely to seek help after they have been abused by female narcissists, so the proportions are difficult to calculate
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There are no racial boundaries. No sexual preferences that can define a narcissist
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Red Flag
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[14-2]
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An arse assist crave control and right from the start they are grooming people to see who they can control
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As the inventory [of] person’s assets. They are determining what you have that they want
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They look for power connections and knowledge that they do not possess
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Then they start to test how vulnerable
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The Target is to be tricked by their kindness as they offer fake friendship
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If someone is strong and sees through the mask of friendship
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They will be a prime target to get rid of in the workplace this process will slowly begin to Devalue the Target
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[somewhere] campaigns will be launched and
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Your teams will [have] division and the victim will find his story of what’s going on quite unbelievable
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Red Flag number 15
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Narcissus do not like authority and they are and adult if they’re being criticized or critiqued they perceive this as an act of war
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They will sabotage with lies and begin to build a smear campaign
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against the person that they cannot control
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Inflicting pain and disruption of work environment can be painful to the victim who is just trying to do their job this is?
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Extreme covert bullying
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number 16
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Narcissus appear to make friends easily in the workplace. They are actually grooming supply in their personal life
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They do not have long time runs because people catch on to their behaviors and they distance themselves in
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the workplace only the ones that can benefit them will be and
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Be given the attention will keep them engaged and will survive
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and flag number
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17
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Everything in the Outward mask that is presented in a [workplaces] pulse the old saying if it seems too good to be true it is
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very much applies
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When looking at a candidate for your company is difficult to see the carnage that they caused caused in their last job
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Try to get a really good feeling for how they felt about their old boss and fellow employees
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They complain about them. They will complain about you next
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patterns repeat
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flag number 18
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Often the understanding of a narcissist is actually misunderstood
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People often think a narcissist look likes to look in the mirror and that they love themselves
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That is false deep down the narcissist [does] not even like themselves
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So they surround themselves with [people] that have qualities. They only fake
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They are always the victim and they use emotions to manipulate people
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[Agga] at work number 819
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Nurse’s recruits people to be against the target this is done by spreading lies and gossiping behind their back
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We call these people flying monkeys because like the monkeys in the wizard of oz that the witch used to do her bidding
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So will a narcissist the closer to the person is to a victim the more?
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Distorted the joy the narcissist feels in recruiting them to cause harm to the victim
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narcissus at work, Red Flag number 20
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narcissus needs validation at all times
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He or she is not above frequently asking to be validated and this need for [admiration] follows them even to work
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they demand that people affirm their ideas and
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Be a willing player in this script
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Victims will be used as supply until they no longer
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Have a value
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D value is the second stage of the abuse cycle?
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Red Flag number 21
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narcissist at work
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It is said that the narcissist has no empathy. What is meant by this is that they do not care who they hurt if
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Ladder climbing at work is their game
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They will use people with their supportive musk and as soon as this target has no more value
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They will be discarded
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Red Flag number 22 the
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[three] stages of Narcissist abuse are idealize
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Devalue and discard these will be observed in the workplace so pay attention
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Well apparently I’ve made [two] red flag number 22
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Let’s try that again at first in the workplace Narcissus play nice under the friendship mask
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what they are really doing is sorting people for strengths that they can use and
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They’re sorting the weak ones who will serve
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The less confident ones are perfect for abuse and it’s a cat and a mouse game
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and flag number 24
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Narcissist or pathological liars
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because of this they will use lies at work to cover for themselves what for this behavior if
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someone becomes aware of what they’re doing a
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Narcissist will Declare War and Destroy the victim
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often these victims are the
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Stronger that they could not manipulate
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They attack these people without any remorse or compassion
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Red Flag number 25
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controlling
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escalation of the narcissistic abuse in the workplace starts with setting boundaries
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Defining policies within a human resource department to recognize the red flags and Behavior will help
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victims and keep Peace within the organization
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consider some company training to be completely opaque and
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Create an open-door policy that shows employees that abuse will not be tolerated
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Red Flag number 26
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Never blame a Victim when you’re here of abuse at the hands of a narcissistic employee
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Examples might be why did you allow them to do that? Why didn’t you report this sooner this type of victim blaming?
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happens from uneducated friends and family and
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Revitalizes the victim this type of reaction causes employees to stop
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Having good [work] ethics
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red flag number
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27 we’re almost there guys. I have only 30 a
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Narcissist is always the victim
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Listen closely to the stories of both sides and you will hear inconsistencies
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This is your intuition telling you that something is not right? [it’s] not adding up a
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narcissist in the workplace will cause damage to departments and teams a
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Narcissist is quick to blame others because they are always the victim
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red flag number
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28
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adults do not name call as
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A society we know that’s not appropriate
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Verbal abuse is a weapon
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Narcissists attack their victims calling them degrading means and it might start off as a home
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You know harmless joke and then it escalates once the victim lets that
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Name-Calling slide the narcissist used it as a source of supply
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[for] added fun these names escalated to include things that are not true
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But are the most important values that the victim has?
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Red Flag number 29
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If an employee is a victim of narcissist abuse at home. They will experience a sense of confusion if
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Things reach the last stage of Discard the person they knew is gone and they could have never expected to see this coming
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They have been abused and brainwashed and lost all sense of self
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And they didn’t even know it depression fear anxiety sleep issues
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Will all result in absence from work?
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support your employees with education and
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give them space
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Red flag number 30 Narcissus bullies [up] work the last one
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Narcissus [maybe] employed by you or attacking
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[co-workers] right now as an Hr
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Department you cannot diagnose someone but you can understand the behaviors and the red flags and educate your staff
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and protect the victims
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This is tracy. That’s all I’ve got
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