They’re Everywhere!
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Hi, this is Tracy
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this weekend
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I had a song go through my hat if he ever had that happened where you hear something on the radio
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And then it just kind of triggers things that bring back memories for you and for me
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I was listening to a radio station and the car and I heard the somewhere over the rainbow song and
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what it did was it brought me [back] to being a little girl and
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I don’t know about you. How old you are and if they had vcRs in those days?
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but he did not when I was growing up and so the wizard of Oz just like the
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Many Fairy tales that we watched on TV on an annual
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one time thing
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Was was really special to me?
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And I think it opened up a world when it came out or certainly when I was allowed to watch it
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It was a help of where I was born
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what it brought to everyone was this sense of of
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Joy and and this forever place. This is happily ever after land of the make-believe. I mean we hadn’t really had that
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So you know?
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As I looking back, and think about that all weekend long. I’m thinking over the lessons that they all learned and
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Do they relate to anything narcissistic. I swear [to] God. I’m losing my mind everything is like coming in and it’s like wait
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There’s something narcissistic about that
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Not as much as I just think that there’s some really good lessons in there
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That I think that we should all make sure that we know about and for one thing
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I’d like you to think about who your favorite character is if you’re a girl
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There’s a really good chance that it was glinda the good witch of the north
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galindo with her beautiful gown and that sort of royal crown that was made of whatever that sparkled and
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Her arrival by bubble right I mean that is cool. Crap when you’re a little kid
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Everybody wanted to be her [I] think
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Of course she was my favorite
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but I
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Think that in learning about her and in knowing and wanting to be this make-believe
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Good witch that comes down and saves everything when in actuality. She never saved anybody
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because
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all she did was be there like a friend and
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Like a coach like a mentor
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that made sure that if she struggled along the road
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She was there for dorothy she never did just wiggle her nose and make her go home
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she made her realize that she had the power all along and
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It’s that lesson that I want to talk to you about today as we deal with our
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Narcissist abuse and our rebuilding of our life
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We had the power all along and I want you to think about that, and I want you to remember just
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because you’ve forgotten it right now the narcissist has
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gotten you so down and and your head is spinning, and you think you’re crazy and
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Nothing makes sense and nobody believes you
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Maybe it’s because you were in the land of oz
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That life was a fairytale, and it wasn’t a happy ending
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if we look at the journey uh-huh the wizard of Oz and Dorothy’s
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Traveling from Kansas
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to us
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We look at the things that that movie that I come and fabric of our lives if we look at
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the things that
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Were never real before
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Good witches and bad witches
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Ruby Slippers and Munchkins how about the lollipop guild oh my God I wanted one of those lollipops
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so badly
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It was awesome
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We look at what happened on Dorothy’s Journey
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to get back home
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We can see a lot of similarities
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between her journey and
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hours to get over a
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Narcissist I’ll tell you how
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when dorothy found herself in the land of Oz a
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Place she could never even imagine
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Not only was it technicolor
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but
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It wasn’t what she thought it was
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Life was different somehow
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But dorothy had a goal
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She wanted to go back home
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Dorothy had a mentor
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glinda to help guide her
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She sought help from others, and that’s what you have [to] do right now is
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You have to find someone that you can talk to [about] this narcissist abuse
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there are counselors there are free services and
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there is help out there find a meet-up newer you start a meetup and people will come and
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All you need to do is support one another
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It’s pretty easy
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so like dorothy
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Turn to your friends
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in the end, she
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Got it done right she went home. She
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Found out she had the power all along
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and
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We are finding out that we had the power all along
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It’s just been swooshed and smushed and smushed by the narcissist
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that is
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emotionally and verbally
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sexually financially
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abused us
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We can get it done
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She was friends to everyone in the end, right
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Everyone even the monkeys liked her the henchmen the munchkins
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She didn’t come in and make enemies
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he came in with Hope and
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It got [better]
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if we look at a scarecrow, that’s who she met next right if we look at the scarecrow and
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And we think about him hanging on that hook in the [crossroads] some people go this way and some people go that way
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You can go either way you want right? This is us. We’re in that cross way
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We can either learn about narcissist abuse and do everything that we can
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so that it doesn’t happen again, or
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We can take the path that we’ve always taken I
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Don’t know about you, but I want the yellow brick road. I want to know where it [goes]. I want ruby slippers
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and
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I would follow the road
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Scarecrow who thought he had [no] brains was listening to old recordings older
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Courting someone must have told him just like we’ve been told things
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old recordings
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That just had to be reprogrammed
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when they both fucked him and
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He started to actually use his brain
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You see when you use your brain you find out you [have] it
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Scarecrow was willing to give his life for dorothy
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fight the witch
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Battle Forces
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when the witch set him on fire
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Dorothy went to save him and
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Were like that?
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We like to save people
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we like to help them and
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We believe that recording that
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First Encounter however long it was that our narcissist pretended that they were something that they weren’t
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We always held on to the dream that that person was real, and they were coming back if only
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If only
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We did more
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remember the song
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Um I was by America
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And the world lying was something about God never did give nothing to the tin man that he didn’t already have
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the tin man did have a heart
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You knew that right away as soon as those flying apple Trees were throwing apples at dorothy
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the tin man stepped in there and
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That is a sign of friendship
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That is the sign of Bravery and that is the sign
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but you can love
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He thought because he didn’t have something ticking inside his chest. He couldn’t love
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But that’s not true because we all have something ticking inside of us, and we can love we know how to love
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We’ve just been loving the wrong person
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We have to love ourself first have to set those boundaries and do not let people
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break them do not listen to their words listen to their actions and
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Find your heart again. You will find it. I
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Don’t know about you, but I kind of thought the lion was cute. You know just this sort of little wimpy
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you know where R and then he was scared when the dog barked at him little toto I
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Felt bad for him. Go figure. Let’s think about that
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I’m a caregiver right of course I’m going to pity
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The one that has no bravery he needs help
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I’ll help him
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The Lion had courage all along, too. He was brave
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Yeah, courage you stood up to a witch and he stood up for a friend
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You [can] do that
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Do you have courage?
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Getting over this narcissist thing you have to reprogram your brain every single time
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You get Sad
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You remember something you think oh my God we had the best time in the world. How could he do this to me?
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She did this she did that get rid of those thoughts and be brave
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Be brave for yourself, and if you can’t be brave for yourself if you’ve got children be free for them
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Your children are watching how you are handling this and they are learning
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About life through what they see with you right now
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and you have probably just been crushed you have probably been hurt and
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There’s so much damage inside of us and yet
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We need to really pull it together in front of our kids. Don’t let them see this
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Be brave and be strong when you get them on the school bus go back to bed if you need to
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be brave like the lion
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the Wizard The Wizard I
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Thought he had it good. I thought he was pretty cool, but you know
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To think about it
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He lands in this land of Oz this magical place with Green and yellow horses
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And he has to go be hidden behind curtains and no one knows
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It wasn’t a good life. He wanted to go back to Kansas to
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Don’t listen to the man behind the curtain that’s her lesson there
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Because you already know yourself
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[you] can beat this it’s not easy
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but if you’re like me a
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Simple song
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about
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somewhere over the rainbow
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Can put you into this weird dark brain and everything scared of coming together?
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You have to think like that
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And you’ll get it and I promise
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You are so much better off without this person don’t miss them
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just
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Miss the person [that] you used to be and find him find her II that for yourself
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We may not have witches arriving by bubble
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But there is a somewhere over the rainbow oh my God
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