So many of us survivors have the same mutual thought – we did not know we were being abused by a narcissist. That might sound odd to someone and may have questions asked like:
How can you say now that you were abused? You were happy and now you are just pissed off because you are no longer together!
There is so much more of the victims world that has been abused and a narcissist shows one face to the world and another at home. We as victims just write that bad behavior off with excuses… they are tired, they have so much on their mind… the list goes on.
Emotional abuse is very real and we need to bring awareness and educate ourselves and our children. Then we can work on the police and legal system.
Hi, there. It is Tracy and tonight. I would like [to] talk to you about
life on the surface
westlife look like
when you’re with a narcissist
Life to the average person your friend your neighbor was up the other soccer moms
Light on the surface being so wonderful with a narcissist because when they’re in public
They are so God damn charming
that they just wiegel our way into everyone’s heart and
For me. I know that when I was in public with to ask my ex-husband
He was the most doting loving husband you’ve ever seen he was actually
Seemingly a good step father he would put his arm around my son
Know them aboard this like they do it every day
But it was a puppet. I didn’t know it then but I’m a surface I
Saw what the people were seeing I wasn’t even seeing
The reality of what was happening at home I?
Didn’t see it slip away. It was so so when I was married for 10 years, but on the surface
Just four comma justice of my childhood and I was just at my therapist me cuz you’re going to get the bonus of that
Was talking about on the surface of my childhood?
Boy, did it sound good?
told myself this over and over
What was really happy I?
didn’t know that I
Was being abused my whole Life I?
Didn’t know that people
when they were in public
But they could pretend I knew that meant that they pretended like how could they pretend
You needa are in us and then you show something or you see that and I mean different play
He wasn’t like mad dog, Rooney, but when he went home
She started to slowly Erode and the fun and the excitement
started to be
and everything was a
He would sit on the chair and watch TV all weekend long
surround himself with like five different papers
he was so busy you mean, I don’t know what apparently talking to other women on the end or not but
Yeah, I didn’t see the surface. I did not see below it. So whatever he was putting out there for the public
that’s before my shock and
Now I’m realizing
That’s what I saw because after what I was used to when I was younger
You see we grew [up] in Connecticut and lived a very pretty utley aged life
On the surface it looked great
but I look back at it now and
Didn’t we ever go on a family vacation?
Why does I try to kill myself when I was younger?
Why was I so unhappy that?
I wanted to get away I
Didn’t think of those things
But now I’m really starting to open up this place
gee Ryan Pandora’s box of my childhood and up my life, and I see now patterns of
cognitive distortion of my life with Rosie
We had good stops
Here’s a nice house who lived on the water of the boat?
Life was good
Wasn’t to get off that surface
My parents fought a lot my mother was a raging alcoholic
She never wake [up] in the morning to let us off the group school. It was pouring rain. She didn’t care. She wouldn’t get up
We never played games
We never just sat at a table and played Monopoly I
Think I’m gonna play monopoly with my son tomorrow by golly. When’s the last time I did that?
Oh, wait. We’ve been doing kurt against humanity
That’s a much better game and [Ne23] so it’s kind of funny that he knows more about things when I do
Anyway, I want you to look at the surface of your life
Did it look like great in [Grand] so we were fools we were conned
But I only have two with the neat service to see what things met how
That pattern that I formed as a young child
But that was a good life because I had things I got to do cool stuff
But I never went camping with my family
never I think we went skiing when I was like eight, but
We didn’t go on vacations. I’ve never been on a plane with any
members of my family except for my child
That’s weird, right
And I can’t say that I can remember the last time we had thanksgiving dinner. I
40 years ago
40 years ago last time I had Christmas or thanksgiving with any [members] of my family, so of course
I’m going to adopt the narcissus crazy fucking ass family of course. I’m going to adopt that I one of the family
this is all command got a derby that’s
All I got this is tracy please subscribe to my channel
I am going to be making lots of YouTube and if you’re looking for some extra support
I have a Facebook group, and it is called narcissist abuse support and
You just put that into a Facebook group, and it is a closed group, and we’re growing or about 250 now
it’s still smaller than most of the other groups but
The people are amazing and they will help you and they will validate whatever you’re going through
Come join us. This is tracy. That’s all I got