I have heard it said that narcissists attract empaths. But am I one? I just figured it out. No I am not a narcissist and this I know because I feel what others feel – is this you?
Suicidal thoughts after a narcissist? Have you ever thought of killing Yourself after your abuse? Did you try? Many of us have including myself. I am grateful I did not, for many reasons, he wasn’t worth it, my life did go on, I would have missed my child growing up. Let’s talk about this…. take it out of the closet and really understand how low we were and share any advice to our sisters and brothers that may think of hurting themselves.
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Hi there. This is Tracy and tonight. I would love to talk to you about
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finding your uppity and
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For me. I didn’t understand that I didn’t know where an empath was I
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didn’t know that I took on other people’s feelings and
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That I could be manipulated by that
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last week I was
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with a friend and she was telling me something really horrible about her job is something that has happened and
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It was it was just a scary vulnerable time for her
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and
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I left and I
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Think it’s the first time I really understood I
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Felt her pain. I was experiencing it. I was driving away and
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And and I was scared for her
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if I look back
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I
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Think that [a] lot of the drama in my life
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was almost a compound of
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Taking on other people’s feelings
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For example when my narcissist you know was having lying
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you know financial Troubles and
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He couldn’t pay [for] his kid to go to lacrosse
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and he needed his car fixed and [annie] [Annie] was in such a bad place and
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Can I use your too late to call?
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For my car. That’s broken down, and then would you pay for my car because you know [I] could feel
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this is
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Acting that has been pulled on me, and so I was I
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was sympathetic and I was empathetic and I could feel it and I would say I don’t want to feel that ever so of
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Course I will help you
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I’m an empathetic person
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And I didn’t even know that I was taking this on and then this is like a new discovery for me
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and you can make fun of me if you want to but
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You know ever since I I’ve been researching this last year narcissist abuse I?
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Heard that you know you could be codependent you can be empathetic
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You know all of these different things but but it didn’t realize was I
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Have been and then I have always taken on other people’s
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feelings and
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That makes me really vulnerable
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so
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When I was driving away from my friends, and I I realized this I
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Did that technique that I made another video on which is to?
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tell yourself
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Okay, that was terrible. I hated hearing about her
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Bad luck and what was going on with her
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But I had my own stuff and if I take on other people’s stuff I am learning that it has brought me back down
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until I
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Think it’s really important for people that
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aren’t may be in tune with your
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Attic side this this empathic way that you take on others feelings
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because it can be used against you a
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Narcissus has already identified this quality about you, and so they’re going to use that
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so I want us to all learn how to
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Pull back when we start to steal someone else’s feelings inside pull back and say are they mine
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Because if you start your day with this and something else happens in you’re there, and you’re there, and you’re there suddenly
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Your brain is exploding from holding all of these people’s emotions good or bad
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So I want you to think about that. I am owning
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And I am accepting and I am aware
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for the first time in my life that I take this on and
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Now I’ve got to learn how to control the dials and how to make myself
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breathe through [it] and
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not take it on
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One of the things I learned from [lasalle] when she was here for those of you who watched our videos earlier this last year
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as
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an impact herself that receives messages from dead people and
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she can hear spirits and
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very very talented and gifted woman and
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When all of that comes in she actually draw boundaries with coast she is my mother sauce was here
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She’s like you tell me what you want right now because that you’ve got to get out of here
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she had other ghosts visiting my house and
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Over the years because she’s been doing this sense a child she’s learned to set boundaries
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Let’s do that and if you feel it
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understand
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That you’re feeling someone else’s shit and start to take care of you and go all right I can
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Sympathize with what they’re going through, but I don’t have to own it, and I don’t have to feel responsible
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and I don’t have to rescue them and
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It will all be ok
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Sis JC. That’s all I got I was wait mate. Thanks for watching and don’t forget to subscribe ok I never remember to ask
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And that’s the name of my website too, so this is tracy and have a great night, and I will see you soon. Thanks
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