Narcissists use us for some type of supply. Supply means a reason they used us, sex, money, arm candy, to have children with you and show the world that they are great dads or moms. We have to dig deep and understand what they used us for so we can understand and set boundaries.
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Hi, this is Tracy tonight. I want to talk to you about
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figuring out
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What type of supply your narcissist is you [poor]?
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We were all here for a reason. We’re all [here] [for] supply
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Every single one of us whether it was our parents or our sisters or our brothers?
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romantic husband wife
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co-parent
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father mother
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we have all been
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[subjected] to a narcissist [and]
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While we cannot control that our parents gave birth and had us
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That we are protected from them and that they came for a reason
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but they
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Use us for a reason whether it was just to tell them how wonderful
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They are or whether it was to hold our head over the toilet when they threw up?
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They were using us for some kind of supply
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often if it’s a parent it could just be to triangulate all the siblings and
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Even mom dad and you they need that person to fill in the blank to
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Talk about the other and to sort of ruin them so
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The most common things that people talk about that are they’re used for as supply are certainly out
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Of sitting on my foot
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That’s great
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narcissus like to have sex a lot and
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very often with multiple partners with out anyone knowing it, but um
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They use us for sex
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They use us for money
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So many people financially abused lost everything
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[most] houses that they owned before the narcissus got there
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These guys are mean your scales are crazy
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And you have to protect yourself
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But you also have to understand. What made you vulnerable?
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Are you codependent?
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think about these things
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Think really hard [write] down for me
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3x [use] me for babysitting pack his house to take them on vacations to pay for things for sex I
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Wonder you can figure out
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[3] things that
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[your] narcissists used you for
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if you’re new to this like discovering
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Abandonment and
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narcissists you might not understand what supply is or understand what they used you for
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if you’ve been married for 25 years [and]
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If I had a pretty good life, they might have been using you as a cover
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They very often use people as a cover
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and that’s what the whole big [family] thing is is they can go to work and manipulate people and
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Get higher and higher and higher [on] the corporate ladder. If that’s what they’re after
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so that they can
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Just get supply from them, and you’re sort of a sub supply
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You’re probably waiting on them making them dinner doing everything for them
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You just think that’s your bowl in your house and your [family] [I]
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Take your etiquette. He does he goes to work I take care of the kids
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There you go. That’s a supply you take care of the kids
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Here is made probably pick up the dry cleaning
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Take the car to get the oil change so he doesn’t have to and I bet there are some of you that most the lawn
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ok I’m just saying that’s boy jobs, and
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There’s also girl to get mad at me and say [I] could move on yeah yeah, yeah
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But you [know] unless they’re going to equal share on laundry you got to figure this
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laying it out there right [now] just
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[try] to figure out what did your narcissist use you for?
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They used you for something and [the] sooner you find out
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Just one more layer to the armor that you will have protecting yourself from
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Someone else coming in and using that same vulnerability against you again
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This is tracy [and] that is all I have great night
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