Hi! My Name is Tracy A. Malone, founder of Narcissist Abuse Support and I’m here to help! 🙂
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Ready
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Hello everybody, this is LaSalle and this is Tracy
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so we’re coming to you today from Westport Connecticut, so this is my first trip to the east coast of the USA and
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it is beautiful here, so I guess it’s fall now for you guys and
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The weather has been mild and marvelous
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and the leaves just starting to turn and
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The weather’s getting this is actually the first time in a week that I have seen blue
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Sky, which is very very nice because I do remember it I grew up here, so I knew they had blue sky
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But I haven’t seen it all week, so it’s great that we have our last day to get together today
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And we’re going to go look at the beach and all my old hangouts and really fun
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I’m gonna get really philosophical now and say
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The blue sky is always there Tracy
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Cats were all away, and the blue sky is always there. Will you sing a song?
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So what we were doing yesterday we went into New York City to interview an author her name is Joyce short and
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George I think it’s so Joyce Joyce
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Yeah, yes, and she’s written a book and a new one is coming out of November that is to do with
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Fraud to get sex is a crime and it has to do with the
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date-raping kind of
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situation or
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Date fraud where they pretend witch that they are something that they’re not
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to
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Date and get in your pants. They take advantage of you. These are true conman
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Many of them she said are narcissists so when I heard about her, and I heard an interview about her
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I had to go into New York and meet her and it was an amazing interview
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we’ve got a little editing to do when I get back to Colorado but
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Wasn’t she interesting she was she was a very interesting lady, and and one thing that really resonated with me
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I mentioned to Tracey earlier was
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she spoke about the concept of
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when when people are with or in a
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situation that they don’t want to be in you know so say you know I was in a situation that I didn’t want to be
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In or I felt like oh, I I wasn’t being treated as I should be
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Often people’s reaction to that is well. Why don’t you leave? Why don’t you just leave?
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And her her response to this was such an in her concept of it was such an interesting thing for me because it made so
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Much sense and what she suggested was is that?
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When you fall in love with somebody or you care for somebody
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It’s just the leafblower have never understood their concept whatsoever but will carry on from there
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When you are in a situation with something where you’ve fallen for them where you have?
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Have become physically attracted to them or even
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Emotionally attracted to them and this happens obviously in that in that build-up phase before you start getting treated
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You know in a lousy or bad? Well if you love farming yeah?
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What happens in that is is that that?
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Physiological connection is sometimes so strong that it’s really hard to override
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With even if when bad things are happening
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And that really explained a lot to me
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What she explained was that I’m sorry, but there’s a chipmunk there and there?
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So what that really
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Proved to me was that it is you know we are
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physiological biological creatures and a strong attraction on that level can sometimes really be
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Very difficult to overcome and we’re all so emotional and romantic
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Creatures and you know most as I have learned most narcissists
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tend to pick up
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Impacts and people who really are caring and so
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You know the empath or the person who is the carer?
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Finds it very difficult to take their energy back and to step out of that situation
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And I found that very interesting so this lady knows one heck of a lot, and she she knows her stuff
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she really does so you’re trying to she’s been trying to change the laws in in States and
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Her new book is actually going to teach all of us
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how to change the laws in our states what language has to be in the law to protect us and
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Another part of what?
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What Lazar is saying is
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that we fall in love and we
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That there’s a chemical reaction. There is something within ourselves that
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It brings all of the things inside of us to
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To be attracted to this person, and then they’re playing on that right
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So I just think when you hear her and you listen to what she wants to do that
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I think that many of us survivors of a narcissist are going to maybe want to support this although
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it was interesting last night it went we went to dinner with my
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one of my best friends and her police officer husband
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I was their maid of honor 30 years ago and as a police officer. We talked about
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domestic violence cases and when they get called and how hard it is for a police officer to
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You know like see something like emotional these you can’t see that they can see a black. Eye
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They don’t know how to make the call. They are trained. They don’t have the skills to
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Recognize when someone’s lying and someone’s not so it I think it’s a gonna be a hard push
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and I think education is still going to have to come way before a law is gonna happen but
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She’s put all the pieces in place and there are two states that
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currently if you
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Date someone and it’s
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fraudulent to get into their pants then they can go to jail so
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It’s starting to happen England has it so we’re working on
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That with her and we’re gonna bring you her interview and a couple of days
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And Tracy I don’t know what you think, but I I think it makes still a very strong case you guys for
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setting your personal boundaries
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Before you ever even get into that situation you know so so I guess through education as well
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Teaching people what isn’t what is not acceptable but moreover
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Allowing you to choose. What is right for you and not right for you to do Chipmunks
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before you know before you get to that that place where it’s difficult to get your take your energy back I
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Want you to say something as well? I just submitted a well
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I didn’t submit an elephant journal if you guys have heard of elephant channel
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there is an article that I wrote on how to you know get over loving a narcissist and
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a
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gentleman made a very interesting point about
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Something you know he he read the article and he made a comment saying that
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You know why is it that he always hears about the man being the narcissist and not the woman
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Dudes, I can only write from my perspective, and I just happen to be a woman however
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guys if there’s you know
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We need to hear your side of this, too
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Nobody is saying that in a narcissist up here are only men or that men behave badly people behave badly
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and so
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You know if you’ve got something to say any of you fellas please do please do we’d love to hear it. Yeah
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Yeah, we’ll be back in Colorado and making more videos our big video is
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Coming soon. It’s been editing and
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I’m actually taking like five hours of
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Random thoughts and like sticking them all together, and you know we got chipmunk all the time
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Yeah, we’re pretty difficult to edit so her son is editing it, so it’s a little bit
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Delayed because we like to talk so stay tuned that’s gonna come and we’re gonna go to the beach now and visit
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all my old
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Spots yeah, thank you. Have a great day. Bye. I have to turn it off now
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