These are all feelings we experience, and so many other emotions. In this video I share with you my journey from doctors to Meds and past that to natural cures. Share with us what you did that would be great! Because together we heal.
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Hi there this is Tracy and tonight, I want to talk about some of the emotions that you might be going through
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Depending on where you are
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in the stages of recovery
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The feelings that you might be feeling if you’ve been with a narcissist a sociopath or psychopath
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If it was a love relationship a marriage
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Someone that you knew at work a
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Mother father sister brother child these are all very possible that you can
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Be encountering them and so that the feelings are gonna go that scale but
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Confusion and fear
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hurt and depression
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anger and anxiety
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and
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You may feel completely lost you may feel like you’ve lost your best friend
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you may feel like you’ve lost your partner you may feel like you’ve lost the person that you thought you knew and
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all of a sudden this new person is taking over their role this person is coming and
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Acting like nothing you’ve ever seen it doesn’t matter if it’s been
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two months or 20 years suddenly
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There’s a new person in your life
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because this person would have never treated you that way or
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Have they not been doing it all along. That’s the secret here guys
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With all of these feelings for me, I had them all I went through different stages of
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Confusion like my head. I couldn’t concentrate
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I couldn’t hold a thought and I was like deer in the headlights and squirrel squirrel squirrel
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I was running around and kept really busy hyper hyper
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Couldn’t sleep so I had anxiety I was afraid to go to bed. I was afraid of the future. I was afraid of
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What was happening?
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In both discards it was just brizia
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stings in my entire life
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And I want to know how you
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Got past some of these feelings because if we discuss it I think that everybody will have something that can help someone else and
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While I don’t pretend to know at all I’m learning and I haven’t done at all
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Some of the first things I did
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Before I really fully understood or did my research on what a narcissist was was I saw my doctor
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I said listen. I like I can’t sleep I can eat. I lost like 40 pounds when I was going through my divorce I
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I
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was lost and
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my doctors put me on an antidepressant because you’re going through a divorce of course you’re going to be sad, so let’s
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antidepressant her so
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He started me on Madden and four years later. I’m still on it. I wanted to go off it this past year and
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He suggested. I waited till after winter because a lot of people are triggered by winter
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well that was never it took her for me, so I
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Listened to him because he is my doctor, right?
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And and while the antidepressants helped, I think they help normalize
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My reaction and and and my fears it
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Certainly it didn’t know me it just I guess it just did what it’s supposed to do by equalizing
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my body and and my reaction to things so I didn’t go deep deep into a
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depression where you can’t get out of bed and
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I know plenty of people that that have happened to
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but
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After I did that the doctor with them say well you still got anxiety
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That’s different than you know depression, so here’s some anti-anxiety medicine
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Primarily for you to take at night, but if you’re having a panic attack or something, then you should always have these near you
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Okay, I’ve listened to my doctor
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I didn’t like them and
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He
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then prescribed sleeping pills because that would help me sleep better and
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I took them for quite a long time, and it wasn’t good
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They did get me to sleep, but I don’t think it’s the same sleep. I I know that it’s not the same sleep so
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Your doctor might be doing these same steps, this is kind of protocol for someone going through
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PTSD and and talking about confusion fear hurt anger depression and
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Anxiety and and just lost weight, so those are normal things your doctor might you
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I
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saw an acupuncturist and I
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Was getting needles to reduce anxiety use the stress the depression the symptoms that my body was taking on
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because I was
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in PTSD
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The losing weight they’re not wanting to eat. They’re not wanting to sleep so the acupuncturist helped
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I
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saw a
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Homeopathic doctor and he prescribed these teeny tiny bottles
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I don’t even know what the treatment is, but I think that really helped me
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Normalize a lot of parts of my body
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According to him many of my organs were shutting down my liver my kidney
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my frontal lobe this that there were all these parts that were not doing well because of
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this fight flight or freeze and anxiety so
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I think what he gave me really really helped a lot and
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I’ll put the link to it down below
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Because I don’t know the name of it all I know is I had these little teeny tiny
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Homeopathic drops and like sick monomer Tong and then they disappeared
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Besides all of these things there’s EMDR
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there is
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Tapping a friend of mine does tapping and she helped me through some of the parts by tapping
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and you say the meditation is really good for you and
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What I have learned through all of this is
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our bodies hope power to heal, maybe we don’t even really know that because
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We have a symptom we go to the doctor they
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Give us a solution or a medicine or something that will treat the symptoms
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Not really the problem right they can’t change that were depressed
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They can’t change that crap is happening to us faster than we can you know breathe?
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but
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if you look at these things that
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We can do to help ourselves
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If you’re having a panic attack
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or anxiety
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Fears are overcoming you
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What I learned which is the most important thing for me was to close my eyes and feel
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Where was it tight was it tight here in my chest just in whites fruit?
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Um or other parts of my body hurting me
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sort of scan your body
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breathing really deeply
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Breathing as deeply as you can
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Until it goes way down into the bottom of your stomach and what you’re doing is you’re kind of like
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Getting your mind on the breaths and this sounds all fufufufu
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I used to think you know all of that was foo-foo, but now I know that it really works
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and it really can calm your body it can stop that anxiety attack and
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It can help you sleep at night if you just focus in on on your entire body
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It’ll help you sleep
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If you’re having a panic attack if things are just triggering you and you’re upset
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Just do this let your feet on the ground
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nice and flat
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Put your hands on your knees and close your eyes
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And just breathe
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Feel where that anxiety is
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And tell it
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in your mind
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But it’s okay
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There’s nothing to fear right now right now. You’re safe
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What happens will happen and you will do everything that you can but worrying about things that haven’t happened
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Is our biggest enemy so I?
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Would like to hear what you did to get past all of these feelings
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I would like to know if you can offer the community here some advice
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So that we can all help each other heal. I’ve just pretty much laid out everything that I did
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Oh counselling books of course counseling you want to talk to a counselor
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And I want you to ask the counselor. What do they know about?
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Emotional abuse they will not diagnose your
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narcissist sociopath or psychopath
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Without them being there, and they’re not gonna be there. They’re if they do go
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They’re gonna pretend
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but make sure they have an awareness of the signs and the flags and
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And the guidance that you’re gonna need to get you out of this so
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If the if the therapist doesn’t know anything about them. They might be a great therapist, but they’re not for you and
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Just like we’re gonna have to eliminate people from our life
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We have to make the choice to choose someone that is going to serve us so make sure you get help Sharik set up help
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Meet up groups. I have a meetup group, and I meet once a month, and I really think that helps validate
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everybody’s different feelings so
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On my website narcissists abuse support calm link down there. You’re gonna be able to find
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all the meetups my state and
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All of the local support that you might be able to get I got ten weeks free counseling from the state
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And it was the best counseling that I had during my recovery
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process they know abuse and they can really help you this is chasey and
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Let’s start a discussion. I’d like to know what you did to get better. Thanks
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