Often when we are being verbally abused the victim is unaware that the comments are really abuse. In this colorful video I take you thru some abuse statements.
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I believe that verbal abuse is the soul sucker the soul killer because we don’t really
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Understand it’s happening
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subtle things
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Things that we just thought were rude are really abuse
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Listen to these
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People these friends these animals that are coming up and see if any of them sound true for you
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Have you ever wondered what?
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Things that the gnosis has said to you were they abuse
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I’ve got a few examples here I
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Brought some of my friends to help us out
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Today stay tuned and watched all the things
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Well some of them if you have other things
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That your gnosis is said to you put them in the comments so we can all learn
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Name-calling in verbal abuse and emotional abuse it brings up names like idiot or stupid sometimes crazy
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bitch or whore
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Maybe they’re saying you’re worthless Wow better yet, you’re lazy
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Just remember that as they pull these tricks and as they call you these names
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They are reflecting in a mirror themselves because that is their traits
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An abuser likes to tell you what you’re doing for example
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Why don’t you two stuff your feelings inside
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You’ve got your priorities all screwed up
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Stop being a drama queen
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They tell you what their intentions are what you intend to do
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It’s really what they meant to do
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What for them to interrupt you while you’re talking?
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and
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Changing the subject to divert your attention
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if you suspect something or you have a something that you’re concerned about deep inside your heart and
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They just changed the subject that is a red flag to what out for
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An abuser might use insults and threats against your pet
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Why don’t you just leave and take that geriatric dog with you I hope he dies I
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Hope your dog gets killed in the middle of the road, and you can’t do anything about it
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He might use threatening justice towards you better way to curse your dog’s neck
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Boy you might say many narcissists are cheaters yes, they cheat all the time
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It’s just their way
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They could be married to four different people at once well just be sleeping with them
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It’s important to know that if you tell them
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What sex means to you?
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And they still betray you
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With acts that are not correct
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To go
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To gain power and control they may use that you have no money. You’d be lost without me
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That is a winner it gets us every time
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At least I have a job. He might say
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and
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Maybe she would say you know nothing about the real world
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At least I know how to make friends that matter
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For so many of us
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having sex
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intercourse
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It’s a sacred thing something. We really save for people that we really love
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When a narcissist knows this about you they pretend that it’s real love to get sex
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Very often they con you into bed and break up with you in the morning
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For more examples of
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Verbal abuse they might tell you that your priorities are all screwed up. Oh
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They might tell you that you’re being a drama queen how about a drama King?
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Yes, we’ve got those two
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mm-hmm
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And what they tell you to stuff your feelings inside?
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These you all things that aren’t good abuse yes a
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Narcissist will insult your dreams the churches and the restaurants and the movies that you want to see but is simply not good enough
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your career ambitions
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Are just fluffy and not real
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They insult the gifts that you give them or act quite disinterested
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That is never going to work
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they make fun of you and
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Mock you a narcissist won’t care about your medical issues. Just be forewarned. You must learn to care for yourself
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You might far get a concussion
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And they won’t care
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You might pick a rib
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If you’re having surgery
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But when they
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Get home from work after a long day
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and they need tender love and affection, and they need massaging and
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pampering
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Could you put my feet up dear?
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hmm, I don’t think that’s a TIA, but they certainly would make you feel bad if you didn’t do it a
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Narcissist only wants to help themselves, and they want you to help them, too
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In an effort to be little whatever’s wrong with you
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They will probably make fun of your medications
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Think of it this way, they’re happy pills. You’re crazy. You need antidepressants
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There’s nothing wrong with you. You just want to get high that is why you are asking to talk to fraud these drugs
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there’s nothing wrong with you a
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Lot of times you might find that the analysis is very thoughtless of your needs for example
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She might go into the kitchen right in front of you makers have lunch and not ask you if you want anything
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Maybe they don’t help you with the children or household chores. These are flags. We must remember
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Do they ask about your day
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In many kinds of abuse gifts are often used as a tool not as a natural gift
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If they did not come from a heart. Maybe they didn’t wrap it
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Maybe there’s a price tag on it or they’ve just tossed it at you like a bone here you go
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Sometimes they give gifts after a fight to initiate forgiveness it isn’t real however. They don’t care
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Birthdays holidays are very often used by the narcissist in their emotional abuse if they know that
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Your birth is very
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important to you
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They will on
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purpose over time
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Make that holiday terrible for you if you love Christmas. They will find a way to steal it from you, so
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Be on your guard
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Those days will come each year
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Happened to you – assists and his family
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They were so in love with me because I was so different than anything. They had ever had in their life
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and so they slowly began to change me they dressed me in kimonos and
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Then they dressed me in clothes, I didn’t like I wasn’t good enough being me
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They changed me
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You
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Can’t do anything right
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If you really loved me you would clean up your room
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That’s ridiculous, you can’t be upset about that I didn’t do anything
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You’re just like your father
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Why can’t you be more like your brother?
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When someone is abusing you it may turn to a financial abuse situation
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They demand that you do the shopping, but they don’t give you enough money
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They make you give them their paycheck
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They do not believe that your job is important or that you should have your own money
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they give you access to their bank accounts and
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Then they verbally and mentally abuse you for your decisions
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When you were the boss assist for a very good chance to come into a financial ruin
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Yes, they will do all sorts of things like hmm. Make you quit your job
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That was wrong, but you quit your job, and then you have to rely on them
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But they will not give you the supply that you need you see this is their way of controlling you they will take your money
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Even close accounts it’ll be so much fun
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Shall we take one
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Narcissists engage in crazy making activities. They behave oddly, and they make it seem like you did something
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They might like say that you promised to do something when you know you didn’t
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they may say that you promise to do something and
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They are very disappointed in you
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I
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Wish I never had children I
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Am through with you
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I hate you –
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You’re stupid
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You are always doing things wrong
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Why can’t you do it right is it that much work?
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All your fault I know what you did
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You’re such a liar
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You had to mess this up again didn’t you?
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You’re going to make me throw something if you don’t stop I
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Really wish you didn’t think the world revolved around you you make me so
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Just don’t know when to stop do you?
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You’re just trying to make me angry you
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Don’t know when to stop
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you
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Are going to be the death of me, you are so selfish
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For small person you really do some dumb things don’t you I
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Teach you exactly like you deserve
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Mommy is crying in the basement because you did something wrong I
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Will take the kids and maybe with nothing
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The courts will favor me because I am a better parent and you are crazy
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He’s came back
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They may just threaten to not come home tonight
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To leave you wondering
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not sleeping
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Worrying what you did?
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Emotional abuse and verbal abuse
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Can be triggered for the rest of your life
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Physical abuse scars on the outside stay for a while and there are inside scars
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But just because
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There’s no scar on your face doesn’t mean you aren’t damaged
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Why does an abuser tell you lies about yourself, you know they’re not true
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But this is the trick while you are defending against the false lies
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Then you cannot question their behavior
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If you hear any of these types of statements with your abuser your narcissist
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If I could suggest that instead of questioning yourself
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Did you really say that? I don’t know? I don’t remember it
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Don’t question yourself
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question why they feel they need to control your thoughts
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You are not crazy, and they are not smart
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Verbal abuse is really a
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horrible thing
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It knocks down the victims
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own
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self-esteem it makes them weaker it makes them question if
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The narcissist is actually right
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Verbal abuse is so subtle we very often don’t know
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Think back think back to your abuser
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I think we’re any of these things familiar start to recognize that maybe they were
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