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Hi, this is Tracy today, we are going to talk about
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What the biggest fears of a narcissist is?
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man women doesn’t matter
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They have fears and we may think that
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They’ve instilled fears in us, but everything that they do
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Has to do with the fear the first and most important one is a fear of abandonment
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They don’t want to be abandoned they were probably abandoned as a child and so well we may have abandonment issues
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They’re a little bit different
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They’re going to get even
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with someone
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Who abandons them you break up with them first you ask for a divorce
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It doesn’t matter. They are being rejected and
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Abandoned so they’re gonna lash out. They’re going to either
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You know go one way or the other so they could Hoover back into your life, right?
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That’s definitely a possibility number two is they can like reject you like well
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I’m gonna I rejected you first. It’s sort of a you know a very immature kind of
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strategic plan for
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Tricking themselves into not thinking that they were abandoned and they don’t like being ignored
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ignoring a
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narcissist is is telling them the truth and
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We have to remember that they need the spotlight to survive without it. They’re
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like lost little kittens and puppies
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Another thing a narcissist hates
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and they are afraid of it’s the fear of being exposed and
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That my children is our best power
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because if we all
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Shout from the mountains, and we do not let them get away with it
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We are outing them in such a big way, and I’m not saying them in particular
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Eze don’t out anybody’s name
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don’t do it on YouTube don’t write emails don’t graffiti it on a wall somewhere because
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That is how they will put you in jail because?
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They can come up with a million. You know slandering things, and so just don’t do it to about their name
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But don’t let their story get buried
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share it and expose them and
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Let people know the truth
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They hate being disrespected as you’re narcissist ever felt like he was disrespected
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And I know that my experience
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Disrespected for both my narcissus would be their bosses their bosses. They just didn’t like them ever
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my ex-husband just hated every one of his bosses and
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He was always smarter than them he was always you know they just don’t get it
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And that’s being disrespected, and he hated it if someone questions their
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Intelligence or their decisions they’re being disrespected in their their minds
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Vulnerability is
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Something that a narcissist doesn’t like
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leaving help not being vulnerable like us to become victims of a
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psychopath narcissist, but
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vulnerable that let’s say they
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break their leg or need surgery and
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They need to have people care for them and while their normal
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MO is sure everyone’s gonna do everything for me this vulnerability of
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getting sick and
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Aging
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You know something that’s gonna happen to their career or their life. They get cancer
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They’re they’re afraid of that so I have seen and heard tales
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Many narcissists are like germophobes
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and I don’t know if you have that experience but because
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They’re afraid of death they are you know super cautious on on what they?
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Like let near them, and you know using wipes and creams and all that stuff
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of course they’re like
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narcissist
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Narcissists how do you say its name um?
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You know the Greek mythology dude that all this is blamed after
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Getting older oh
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No just don’t age well, and that is another
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weak point for us for karma
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mhm and just accept that they don’t like it cuz they’re gonna get older or
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If the true karma karma guides come make it certainly
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not to get better and
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They’re jealous, they are so fearful of jealousy
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They’re afraid that you’ll leave them, and they’re afraid of your time even if you’re spending it with your friends
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I don’t need you remember that you were sort of isolated by your narcissists because they were jealous they were jealous of your family
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because they had to break you up you they had to like separate you and
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Give you less of a support system
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They’re afraid
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You and
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Me we’re going to leave
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Yeah, that’s the same thing is like being exposed and being rejected
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but
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it’s something again not on their terms and
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They don’t like that, but they become worried did they take?
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something too far
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Think about it. They’ve pushed the envelope over and over and if we respond
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the
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Idea in their head that did they go too far
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It’s not that oh. No did I go too far and hurt her?
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No
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it’s
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There’s the line I can’t remember that for next time
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there
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Don’t go this far
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They hate losing power and control
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all of this if you notice is is lost to them loss of
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you know people in their lives and
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Being disrespected being vulnerable all of these things are exactly what we go through
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Because they put us there they stop us on the ground like 80 times much
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And then they’re like wondering why we won’t take them back
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Oops it’s kind of crazy
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um
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They hate betrayal
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They don’t want anyone to know that
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They are who they are to them by disclosing that that is betrayal
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I
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Wonder how they feel about us
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Cheating on them. You know I’d really like to do some research if anyone knows about that because think about that
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Where you know? They’re jealous that we’re talking to our brother and
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They’re they’re like weird but
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What about the other way around?
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let’s think that through I
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Think they know that they have a mask
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Because they’ve very very carefully crafted it. This is not something
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That’s you know you decided I’m going to act like a ditzy blonde today
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This is a rule based on everything that you have ever
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Wanted in a person and they act that role and that becomes a mask, but they wear with you
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And then there’s a mask that they wear with others
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so
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They’re afraid that the mask is gonna fall. I
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was thinking about a
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Topic for video, and I’m going to make it
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probably next and I launched it soon because it’s a it’s about the holidays and as I was doing the
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Research in my brain and and trying to remember some good examples to share with you guys
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So I’m gonna tell you a little tiny story because I think storytelling was really important
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Having the mask fall
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The example that I’m going to share with you is my ex-father-in-law and
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There was a day in
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Argentina that we
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Got into a fight over a Facebook post and he went
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Absolutely batshit crazy on me
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I’ve never seen rage like that before I
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Never seen anybody
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like like their eyes were a cartoon character I
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was
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crying and and in a hotel room with my mother-in-law and father-in-law and I
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Was in another country, and and I wanted to go home. It was crazy
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But I look back now that
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Complete opposite a
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Fake persona he had put on for me and my family
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Was blown his cover was blown his temper
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his
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Real underscoring feelings came out. He called me a gold digger
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Because I made a Facebook post
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about
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Not letting the airlines go on strike, and I didn’t say where I was or anything like that but apparently that
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Facebook post
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Was so scary to him for being exposed
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That he lashed out and the mask bow
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Life was never again the same and within
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three months
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They got my husband a job back in New
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York and living in their house and only a few months after that they convinced him to divorce me
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The mask fell and I knew too much
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I’m gonna read a whole bunch of them without explanations ready
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fear of exposure fear of intimacy fear of death fear of commitment fear of rejection fear of failure feel of aging a
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Fear of engulfment by the narcissism, that’s inside of them
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a fear of abandonment
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They have mother fears father fears fears of intimacy the greatest fear is exposure fear of commitment
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covert narcissist fears
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Fear being exposed
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Repeating them
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That’s all I got
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You see and that is all. I’ve got on my list
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I’d be happy to talk with you any time. Thank you. This is Tracy and that is all. I’ve got
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