What do Narcissists fear most?

NARCISSIST FEARS
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VICTIMS
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Hi, this is Tracy today, we are going to talk about

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What the biggest fears of a narcissist is?

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man women doesn’t matter

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They have fears and we may think that

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They’ve instilled fears in us, but everything that they do

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Has to do with the fear the first and most important one is a fear of abandonment

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They don’t want to be abandoned they were probably abandoned as a child and so well we may have abandonment issues

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They’re a little bit different

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They’re going to get even

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with someone

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Who abandons them you break up with them first you ask for a divorce

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It doesn’t matter. They are being rejected and

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Abandoned so they’re gonna lash out. They’re going to either

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You know go one way or the other so they could Hoover back into your life, right?

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That’s definitely a possibility number two is they can like reject you like well

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I’m gonna I rejected you first. It’s sort of a you know a very immature kind of

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strategic plan for

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Tricking themselves into not thinking that they were abandoned and they don’t like being ignored

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ignoring a

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narcissist is is telling them the truth and

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We have to remember that they need the spotlight to survive without it. They’re

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like lost little kittens and puppies

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Another thing a narcissist hates

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and they are afraid of it’s the fear of being exposed and

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That my children is our best power

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because if we all

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Shout from the mountains, and we do not let them get away with it

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We are outing them in such a big way, and I’m not saying them in particular

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Eze don’t out anybody’s name

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don’t do it on YouTube don’t write emails don’t graffiti it on a wall somewhere because

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That is how they will put you in jail because?

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They can come up with a million. You know slandering things, and so just don’t do it to about their name

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But don’t let their story get buried

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share it and expose them and

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Let people know the truth

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They hate being disrespected as you’re narcissist ever felt like he was disrespected

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And I know that my experience

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Disrespected for both my narcissus would be their bosses their bosses. They just didn’t like them ever

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my ex-husband just hated every one of his bosses and

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He was always smarter than them he was always you know they just don’t get it

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And that’s being disrespected, and he hated it if someone questions their

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Intelligence or their decisions they’re being disrespected in their their minds

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Vulnerability is

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Something that a narcissist doesn’t like

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leaving help not being vulnerable like us to become victims of a

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psychopath narcissist, but

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vulnerable that let’s say they

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break their leg or need surgery and

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They need to have people care for them and while their normal

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MO is sure everyone’s gonna do everything for me this vulnerability of

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getting sick and

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Aging

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You know something that’s gonna happen to their career or their life. They get cancer

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They’re they’re afraid of that so I have seen and heard tales

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Many narcissists are like germophobes

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and I don’t know if you have that experience but because

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They’re afraid of death they are you know super cautious on on what they?

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Like let near them, and you know using wipes and creams and all that stuff

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of course they’re like

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narcissist

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Narcissists how do you say its name um?

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You know the Greek mythology dude that all this is blamed after

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Getting older oh

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No just don’t age well, and that is another

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weak point for us for karma

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mhm and just accept that they don’t like it cuz they’re gonna get older or

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If the true karma karma guides come make it certainly

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not to get better and

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They’re jealous, they are so fearful of jealousy

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They’re afraid that you’ll leave them, and they’re afraid of your time even if you’re spending it with your friends

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I don’t need you remember that you were sort of isolated by your narcissists because they were jealous they were jealous of your family

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because they had to break you up you they had to like separate you and

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Give you less of a support system

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They’re afraid

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You and

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Me we’re going to leave

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Yeah, that’s the same thing is like being exposed and being rejected

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but

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it’s something again not on their terms and

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They don’t like that, but they become worried did they take?

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something too far

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Think about it. They’ve pushed the envelope over and over and if we respond

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the

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Idea in their head that did they go too far

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It’s not that oh. No did I go too far and hurt her?

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No

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it’s

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There’s the line I can’t remember that for next time

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there

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Don’t go this far

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They hate losing power and control

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all of this if you notice is is lost to them loss of

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you know people in their lives and

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Being disrespected being vulnerable all of these things are exactly what we go through

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Because they put us there they stop us on the ground like 80 times much

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And then they’re like wondering why we won’t take them back

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Oops it’s kind of crazy

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um

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They hate betrayal

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They don’t want anyone to know that

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They are who they are to them by disclosing that that is betrayal

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I

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Wonder how they feel about us

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Cheating on them. You know I’d really like to do some research if anyone knows about that because think about that

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Where you know? They’re jealous that we’re talking to our brother and

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They’re they’re like weird but

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What about the other way around?

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let’s think that through I

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Think they know that they have a mask

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Because they’ve very very carefully crafted it. This is not something

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That’s you know you decided I’m going to act like a ditzy blonde today

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This is a rule based on everything that you have ever

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Wanted in a person and they act that role and that becomes a mask, but they wear with you

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And then there’s a mask that they wear with others

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so

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They’re afraid that the mask is gonna fall. I

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was thinking about a

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Topic for video, and I’m going to make it

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probably next and I launched it soon because it’s a it’s about the holidays and as I was doing the

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Research in my brain and and trying to remember some good examples to share with you guys

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So I’m gonna tell you a little tiny story because I think storytelling was really important

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Having the mask fall

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The example that I’m going to share with you is my ex-father-in-law and

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There was a day in

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Argentina that we

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Got into a fight over a Facebook post and he went

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Absolutely batshit crazy on me

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I’ve never seen rage like that before I

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Never seen anybody

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like like their eyes were a cartoon character I

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was

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crying and and in a hotel room with my mother-in-law and father-in-law and I

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Was in another country, and and I wanted to go home. It was crazy

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But I look back now that

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Complete opposite a

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Fake persona he had put on for me and my family

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Was blown his cover was blown his temper

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his

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Real underscoring feelings came out. He called me a gold digger

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Because I made a Facebook post

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about

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Not letting the airlines go on strike, and I didn’t say where I was or anything like that but apparently that

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Facebook post

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Was so scary to him for being exposed

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That he lashed out and the mask bow

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Life was never again the same and within

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three months

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They got my husband a job back in New

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York and living in their house and only a few months after that they convinced him to divorce me

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The mask fell and I knew too much

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I’m gonna read a whole bunch of them without explanations ready

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fear of exposure fear of intimacy fear of death fear of commitment fear of rejection fear of failure feel of aging a

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Fear of engulfment by the narcissism, that’s inside of them

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a fear of abandonment

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They have mother fears father fears fears of intimacy the greatest fear is exposure fear of commitment

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covert narcissist fears

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Fear being exposed

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Repeating them

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That’s all I got

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You see and that is all. I’ve got on my list

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