The wizard of oz has taught us many things but this week i had it come to me and i see so clearly the lessons we need to learn in the actions of Dorothy, Tin Man, scarecrow, and the cowardly lion.
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Hi, this is Tracy
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this weekend I had a song go through my hat if he ever had that happened where you hear something on the radio and then
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It just kind of triggers things that bring back memories for you and for me
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I was listening to a radio station and the car and I heard the somewhere over the rainbow song and
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What it did was it brought me back to being a little girl, and I don’t know about you
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How old you are and if they had VCRs in those days?
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but they did not when I was growing up and so the Wizard of Oz just like the
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Many fairy tales that we watched on TV on an annual
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one time thing
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Was was really special to me, and I think it opened up a world when it came out
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Or certainly when I was allowed to watch it. It was a help before I was born
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What it brought to everyone was this sense of of
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joy, and and this forever place this happily-ever-after
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Land of the make-believe. I mean we hadn’t really had that so you know
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As I looking back and think about that all weekend long. I’m thinking with the lessons that they all learned and
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Do they relate to anything narcissistic I swear god
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I’m losing my mind everything is like coming in and it’s like wait. There’s something narcissistic about that
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Not as much as I just think that there’s some really good lessons in there
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That I think that we should all make sure that we know about and for one thing
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I’d like you to think about who your favorite character is if you’re a girl
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There’s a really good chance that that was Glinda the Good Witch of the North
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gelinda with her beautiful gown and that sort of royal crown that was made of whatever that sparkled and
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Her arrival by bubble right. I mean that is cool crap when you’re a little kid everybody wanted to be her I
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Think of course she was my favorite
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But I
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Think that in learning about her and in knowing and and wanting to be this make-believe
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Good witch that comes down and saves everything when in actuality she never saved anybody
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because
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All she did was be there like a friend and like a coach or like a mentor
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That made sure that if she struggled along the road
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She was there for Dorothy she never did just wiggle her nose and make her go home
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She made her realize that she had the power all along
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And it’s that lesson that I want to talk to you about today as we deal with our
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narcissist abuse and our rebuilding of our life
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We had the power all along
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And I want you to think about that and I want you to remember
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Just because you’ve forgotten it right now the narcissist is is
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gotten you so down and and your head is spinning, and you think you’re crazy and
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Nothing makes sense and nobody believes you
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Maybe it’s because you were in the Land of Oz
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that life was a fairy tale and
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It wasn’t a happy ending
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If we look at the journey. I hope The Wizard of Oz and Dorothy’s
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traveling from Kansas to
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Us
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we look at the things that that movie that I come an fabric of our lives if we look at
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the things that
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Were never real before
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Good witches and bad witches
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Ruby slippers and munchkins about the Lollipop Guild. Oh my god. I wanted one of those lollipops, so
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badly
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It was awesome
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We look at what happened on Dorothy’s journey
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To get back home
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We can see a lot of similarities between
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Her journey and ours to get over a narcissist. I’ll tell you how
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When Dorothy found herself in the Land of Oz a
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Place she could never even imagine
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Not only was it Technicolor
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but
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It wasn’t what she thought it was life was different somehow
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But Dorothy had a goal
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She wanted to go back home
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Dorothy had a mentor
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Glinda to help guide her
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She sought help from others
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And that’s what you have to do right now
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Is you have to find someone that you can talk to about this?
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narcissists abuse
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There are counselors there are free services and
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There is help out there find a meet-up near you start a meet-up and people will come
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And all you need to do is support one another
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It’s pretty easy
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So like Dorothy
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Turn to your friends
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In the end
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She got it done right she went home she
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found out
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She had the power all along
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and
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We are finding out that we had the power all along
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It’s just been smooshed and smooshed and smoothed by the narcissist that
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is
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emotionally and verbally sexually financially
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Abused us
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We can get it done
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She was friends to everyone in the end, right
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Everyone even the monkeys liked her the henchmen the munchkins
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She didn’t come in and make enemies
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She came in with hope and it got better
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If we look at the Scarecrow that’s who she met next right if we look at the Scarecrow and
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And we think about him
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Hanging on that hook in the crossroads some people. Go this way and some people go that way you
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Can go either way you want right? This is us. We’re in that cross way
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we can either learn about narcissists abuse and
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Do everything that we can?
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So that it doesn’t happen again
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or
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we can take the path that we’ve always taken I
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Don’t know about you, but I want the yellow brick road. I want to know where it goes. I want ruby slippers
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and
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I would follow the road
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The Scarecrow who thought he had no brains was listening to old recordings
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Old recordings someone must have told him just like we’ve been told things
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Old recordings
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That just had to be reprogrammed
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when they buff buff buff him and
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He started to actually use his brain
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You see when you use your brain you find out you have it
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Scarecrow was willing to give his life for Dorothy
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Fight the witch
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Battle forces
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When the witch set him on fire
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Dorothy went to save him and
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Were like that
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we’d like to save people we’d like to help them and
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We believe that
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recording that
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first encounter
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However long it was
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That our narcissists pretended that they were something that they weren’t
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We always held on to the dream that that person was real, and they were coming back if only
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If only
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We did more
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Remember the song
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Um I was by America and the were lying was something about God never did give nothing to the 10-man that he didn’t already have
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The tinman did have a heart
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You knew that right away as soon as those flying apple trees were throwing apples at Dorothy
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the Tin Man stepped in there
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and
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That is a sign of friendship that is the sign of bravery and that is the sign?
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But you can love
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He thought because he didn’t have something ticking inside his chest. He couldn’t love
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But that’s not true because we all have something ticking inside of us, and we can love we know how to love
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We’ve just been loving the wrong person
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We have to love ourself first you have to set those boundaries and do not let people
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Break them do not listen to their words listen to their actions
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And find your heart again you all find it I
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Don’t know about you, but I kind of thought the lion was cute. You know just this sort of little wimpy
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you know forever, and then he was scared when the dog barked at him little toto I
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Felt bad for him go figure. Let’s think about that
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I’m a caregiver right of course. I’m going to pity
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The one that has no bravery he needs help
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I’ll help him
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The lion had courage all along too. He was brave
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Yeah courage you stood up to a witch and he stood up for a friend you
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Can do that
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Do you have courage
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Getting over this narcissus thing you have to reprogram your brain every single time
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You get sad
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You remember something?
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You think oh my god? We had the best time in the world. How could you do this to me?
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She did this she did that get rid of those thoughts and be brave
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Be brave for yourself, and if you can’t be brave for yourself if you’ve got children be free for them
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Your children are watching how you’re handling this and they are learning
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About life through what they see with you right now
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and you have probably just been crushed you have probably been hurt and
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There’s so much damage inside of us and yet
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We need to really pull it together in front of our kids don’t let them see this
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Be brave and be strong when you get them on the school bus go back to bed if you need to
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Be brave but the lion
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The wizard the wizard I
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Thought he had it good. I thought he was pretty cool, but
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you know
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To think about it
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He lands in this land of Oz this magical place with green and yellow horses
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And he has to go be hidden behind curtains and no one knows it
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Wasn’t a good life. He wanted to go back to Kansas –
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Don’t listen to the man behind the curtain that’s our lesson there
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Because you already know yourself
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You can beat this. It’s not easy
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But if you’re like me a
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Simple song
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About somewhere over the rainbow
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Can put you into this weird dark brain, and everything’s cord of coming together you?
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Have to think like that
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And you’ll get it
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And I promise
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You are so much better off without this person don’t miss them
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just
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Miss the person that you used to be and find him find her be that for yourself
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We may not have witches arriving by bubble
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But there is a somewhere over the rainbow
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