According to the DSM someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder might display an exaggerated sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements). Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.

You will notice this in a way that they truly believe they are better than others. They are entitled to more in life because they are so special. Narcissists often have careers where they get to have power over others. CEOs, Doctors, Lawyers, Police, Judges are common careers sought for a narcissist. Don’t be fooled narcissists can have any job, but they usually feel that they are better than their boss, friends and you.

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They can be overt where they are almost flamboyant about being better than others, or they can be covert and not express this sort of injustice so boldly out loud. That is except to the flock of people that they surround themselves with. These people are like little minions that go along with anything they say. These people cling to the narcissist for the power they get from being associated with them. They often become slaves to the narcissist doing everything for them.

Absolute control – Once inside the spider’s web a narcissist demands total control and they constantly test victims to get them to show loyalty by allowing themselves to be controlled.

Watch for: You will probably see the mind games and control of other people before you see yourself as being controlled. Narcissists generally hate their boss at work because they are better than them and because a boss can control them.

Delusions of grandeur – Narcissists have an unearned sense of self-worth and grandiose tales of their accomplishments.

Watch for: Stories of how great they are that just don’t make sense. You believe that everyone loves them because they told you so. Follow the breadcrumbs, do some of these stories not add up? Do they put other people down to raise themselves higher? Do they argue that their own beliefs and opinions are the absolute authority, and everyone should listen to them? If they disagree with someone – how do, they act towards that person next time.