Rushing IntimacyRushing intimacy is sign of a narcissist and how they sweep you off your feet at the beginning of the relationship. They fall in love very quickly, they have never loved anyone like they love you, and you are perfect in their eyes. They have so many of the same interests, love everything you love, wine and dine you, they can’t get enough of you, more than likely it is the most romantic relationship you have ever had. They ask deep thoughtful questions to show they care.
Its easy to believe them.

Red Flag of a Narcissist

SOCIAL waging his tail – overly texting – first thing in the morning, last thing at night, snap chatting (watch out for this sign because the evidence disappears). He will come on so fast and so charming like well… prince charming. If he plasters your Facebook page with compliments, flattery, songs, and poems. They text you dozens, if not hundreds of times per day. You come to rely on this over-communication as a source of confidence. If this happens watch for all the other signs.

Quickly declares you their soul mate. And for some reason, you don’t find it creepy. They tell you how much they have in common with you. On the first few dates, you do most of the talking and they just can’t believe how perfect you are for them.

Compares you to everyone else in their life. Ex-lovers, friends, family members, and your eventual replacement. When idealizing, they make you feel special by telling you how much better you are than these people. When devaluing, they use these comparisons to hurt you.

They tell you very personal stories about themselves and they want to know everything about you. Be very careful about what you tell them too soon, they will use it against you.

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