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The Toxic Triangle: How Narcissists Utilize Triangulation as a Form of Abuse


In the complex world of narcissistic relationships, triangulation emerges as a potent and destructive tool employed by narcissists to assert control and inflict emotional abuse. This blog aims to shed light on how narcissists skillfully utilize triangulation to manipulate and harm those within their sphere.

Narcissists enlist the support of friends, colleagues, family members, authorities, institutions, or neighbors to carry out their manipulative schemes. Employing tactics such as cajoling, coercing, threatening, stalking, offering retreat, tempting, convincing, harassing, and manipulation through communication, the narcissist orchestrates others to act on their behalf. Through artful seduction, using persuasive language and posture, the narcissist lures these pawns into doing their bidding. Unaware of the manipulative agenda and swayed by the narcissist’s distorted version of reality, these individuals rally against the target under the narcissist’s control. The narcissist adeptly constructs continuous triangles, creating an ongoing cycle of torment for their victims. Paradoxically, they claim to be the ones tormented by their victims, crafting a narrative that leads their recruits to believe they are protecting the narcissist from the perceived “bully.”

Understanding how narcissists use triangulation as a form of abuse is essential for individuals navigating relationships with these manipulative personalities. By recognizing the patterns of triangulation, victims can begin to break free from the toxic cycle, set boundaries, and seek support. Awareness is the first step towards reclaiming control over one’s emotions and ultimately breaking free from the harmful influence of a narcissist.

Defining Triangulation:
Triangulation involves the introduction of a third party, either real or perceived, into a relationship dynamic. Narcissists strategically use this tactic to create tension, jealousy, and competition among individuals, establishing a toxic triangle that serves their manipulative agenda.

Fueling Insecurity:
By involving a third party, narcissists instigate feelings of insecurity in their victims. Whether it’s a real person or an imagined threat, the mere suggestion of competition triggers a sense of inadequacy, fostering a constant need for approval and validation from the narcissist.

Diverting Attention:

Triangulation is a diversionary tactic that allows the narcissist to shift focus away from their own behavior or issues within the relationship. Introducing a third party becomes a smokescreen, diverting attention from their shortcomings while keeping their victim on edge.

Manipulating Emotions:
Narcissists expertly manipulate emotions through triangulation. They may alternate between idealizing one individual and devaluing another, creating a tumultuous emotional landscape. This manipulation serves to maintain control over the emotional state of those involved.

Isolating the Victim:

Triangulation contributes to isolation, as the victim becomes consumed by feelings of competition and inadequacy. The narcissist strategically cultivates an environment where the victim is emotionally isolated, making them more susceptible to the narcissist’s influence.

Creating Rivalries:
Narcissists thrive on creating rivalries among their victims. Whether it’s pitting friends against each other or fostering competition within a family, the narcissist revels in the chaos they’ve orchestrated, deriving a sense of power from the discord they’ve sown.

Maintaining Power Dynamics:
Triangulation is a tool for the narcissist to maintain power dynamics within the relationship. By keeping individuals at odds, they position themselves as the puppeteer in control, orchestrating the emotional responses and actions of those entangled in the triangle.

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