A flying monkey is named after the flying monkeys in the wizard of oz. They did the witches bidding right? narcissists begin grooming your friends and family to use against you as people to do their dirty work. Once the discard happens and you cut off communication with the narcissist they will go to the flying monkeys and tell them bad things about you – LIES. using the pity ploy method they convince your friends and family to turn against you and isolate you even more.

Flying monkeys – adapted from the Wizard of Oz the term Flying Monkeys refers to the monkeys that did the witches bidding to inflict torment on Dorothy. This common narcissistic tactic uses friends and family of the victim to spy on them, spread gossip while painting the narcissist as the victim and their target as the perpetrator. To maintain the illusion of the power they have over you, the narcissist will employ the use of third parties, through which they will attempt to continue control and manipulate you. Flying monkeys can be your best friend, family members, church people or your next-door neighbor. The narcissist has hand selected your friends from day one and created bonds with them, all along secretly accessing the relationship you have and looking for vulnerabilities where they can make their story sound believable to the monkeys. With no loyalty for anyone, the flying monkeys are easily discarded when they have done the damage intended. There are two general types of flying monkeys – ‘complicit and willing’ (conspirator) and ‘well-meaning dupes’ (deluded) remember you were once under the spell of this narcissist and the flying monkeys often are as well. Use extreme caution when approaching a flying monkey, never give any information that they could feedback to the narcissist, it may be better to unfriend or block them on social media rather than allow them to give spy intel to the narcissist.

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