Survival Strategies - Healing from abuse often requires the unlearning of behaviors that you inherited as survival tactics, like people pleasing and apologizing when you didn't do anything. These protected you in an abusive situation but eventually you must lay them down. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissist Reminder - You can never have a relationship with a narcissist. They can pretend to be different or changed but that isn't possible. Don't fall for the hook. It is tempting to believe them, but you will get hurt. - Tracy A. Malone
This is gaslighting - Why do you have to argue about everything! - Tracy A. Malone
The emotional roller coaster of narcissistic abuse does get better. All roller coasters end. Hold on. - Tracy A. Malone
Resentment is an amber that festers into anger and despair. Holding resentment keeps you bonded to the abuser. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissists hate it when... When you set boundaries they lose control over you. They make a mistake and get called out. Having someone make demands on them. - Tracy A. Malone
Talking to a narcissist - At first, the narcissist listens to your story and then crafts a script of lies to trap you, again and again. You may ask yourself why do I fall for it over and over, it's based on that story. They knew you cared and that gives them supply. - Tracy A. Malone.
I have been down the road of broken promises and paid a heavy toll. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Supply - In front of others they embarrass you by telling half truth stories. Then they watch your reaction and that is the supply. They got to you! - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Lie - A narcissist will tell different lies about the same thing to different people. This can bring confusion to all involved. - Tracy A. Malone
When the narcissists words and actions don't match. Victims experience cognitive dissonance. - Tracy A. Malone
Abuse pebbles combine and can sing you down in quicksand as easily as a boulder of abuse. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Parents - No matter how financially successful a narcissistic parent is, they never give financial direction to their children. This empowers the narcissist to always be smarter and more entitled to condemn financial mistakes. You never mattered to them. - Tracy A. Malone
There is a sacredness in tears....They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition and of unspeakable love. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissists words can not be trusted. Their actions must be trusted. Note, they will be different. - Tracy A. Malone
Never give up hope. You will get past the pain of narcissistic abuse. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Family - No memories of family vacations or happy holidays together. No family photos. No unconditional love. You never mattered to them. - Tracy A. Malone
And once the storm is over, you won't remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won't even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person who walked in. That's what this storm's all about. - Tracy A. Malone.
Narcissistic Abuse - Did yours say... You were dramatic? How about sensitive? Jealous? - Tracy A. Malone
Point your recovery boat forward. Keep your eye on a new future. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery - Is not linear, the ebbs and flows are much like grieving. One day we feel stronger, the next we are lost and confused. Triggers can knock us off our recovery ladder in a single moment. It's okay, it doesn't mean you are starting all over again. Hold on and wait for tomorrow being better than today. Instead of worrying about how long this is taking, turn around and remind yourself how far you have come. - Tracy A. Malone
I thought is harmless unless we believe it. It's not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it's true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we've been attaching to, often for years. - Byron Katie
Narcissistic Divorce - Education on divorce is key to emotional resilience during divorce. Feeling empowered with strategies helps reduce the trauma when the drama begins. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Divorce - When it gets too hard to deal with, hold your arms up and ask the universe to send help. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Divorce - After being trapped in a cage, being married to a narcissist, the divorce will bring peace after the storm, hang on! - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Divorce - Pay attention to the lies and smears because they are usually a reflection and projection of what they are doing. Their ego often comes into play because they know they are pulling tricks on you. In their warped minds they want you to know the evil plan, so they create chaos and drama and point the finger at you. While you defend the false allegations they silently laugh. You can't make this shit up! - Tracy A. Malone
Healing After Abuse - There is a moment in recovery where radical letting go frees you. Your pain is gone, the victim is dead and you are a SurThriver! - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Divorce - To survive narcissist abuse you must be the color in the dark times. - Tracy A. Malone
Fear doesn't stop death, it stops life. Worrying doesn't take away tomorrow's troubles, it takes away today's peace. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Divorce - When you learn you only knew the masks. Get ready, the real them will be shocking. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Divorce - When it gets too hard to deal with, hold your arms up and ask the universe to send help. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Abuse - We will never be the same after a narc. We will be stronger, smarter, careful, boundary bad ass loving people. That will never stand for less than we deserve again. - Tracy A. Malone
