We break them down into three stages – Victim – Survivor – surTHRIVER
We want you to know that recovery is much more than learning about what is narcissistic abuse, who are these narcissists are, learn the lingo of narcissistic abuse and what just happened. These things you must learn so that you can identify and avoid getting mixed up with another narcissist.
If you are ready to heal you must learn about yourself, your childhood trauma, you must learn boundary setting and be able to understand your accountability and above ALL you must heal the PTSD. What a narcissist did to you is only half the story, the other half is your own issues as to why you stayed, why you allowed yourself to be treated this badly. Note this not like the blaming from a friend that doesn’t understand more of a self-exploration, remember a narcissist will not take accountability for anything, as survivors we need to understand this and make peace with it.
What we didn’t know did hurt us, so now we must learn and protect ourselves so this never happens again.
Of course, if you were born into a narcissistic family some of this might not apply to you staying, but often the victims of a narcissist had a narcissist family member that basically trained you to accept this type of behavior. If this is you or you are just learning about your past keep an open mind to hearing this news.