Victims of narcissistic abuse stories are all different and yet so similar. You have endured verbal abuse with lies, gaslighting, underhanded tricks and general confusion of the abuse. You have a terrible story and have good reason to hold onto the full-blown crazy story. I get it, but if you want to heal you need to learn a new skill to control the triggers and protect yourself. Every time you share the crazy drama with someone you risk getting triggered and causing the cycle of abuse to hold you stuck in that place and time. In this workshop, you will learn how to take control and CHANGE the story.
Having weak boundaries makes you great narc-bait. The key to learning boundaries is learning how to identify when you need to set a boundary, how to communicate a boundary and must find ways to be stronger so narcissists don’t continue to abuse you.
Creating a peer-led support group saved my life and I have been giving back for almost three years leading two groups in person here in Colorado. When I first learned about narcissistic abuse I joined a therapist-led support group, it cost $750 for an eight-week session and was not sustainable for me financially. It was powerful to remind me of the power of community, so I set out to create a support group.
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DO THIS ALONE
Learning you have been the victim of a narcissist can shatter everything you hold dear, your sense of security and the truths you believed are probably in a tailspin. Our minds begin to play tricks on us and we learn our lives were a lie and we start to question everything.
How are you doing? Are you walking around in a fog, mixed with a mixture of anger, fear, and depression? Because our minds go into a fight, flight or freeze, physical symptoms start to manifest, and you may be in CPTSD.
Our friends and family members just don’t know how to help us anymore and you might feel all alone. There are some great therapists out there, but they generally have limited knowledge of narcissistic abuse, the lies, the completely horrific way they are smearing your name. How do you move on?
Learn the facts, and learn what might happen next because being prepared empowers you.
Tracy Malone Praise
“Thank you Ms. Tracy. You have been a blessing. Only someone who has been there really knows what we are going through” – SurThriver
“I scheduled the ‘Can This Help Me? Support Answers Single Session’ with Ms. Tracey Malone. At the time I had gone through other counseling sessions with licensed therapists and some spiritual counselors to help me heal from a narcissistic abusive relationship. I wanted assistance mentally processing what happened and regaining confidence in myself and life in general. I actually was thinking oh my, another session just bringing up these wounds and not feeling like I was really being heard or the persons quite got it. Well, Tracey gets it! She’s been there and it’s almost like she was birthed to do this. I felt like all the labels I had given myself and the situation were removed. And Tracey saw me, the person, the soul that needed healing, help, and encouragement to go on after this episode. It was the most impactful counseling session I had, living up to its name. She even gives you specific soul-work material after she has listened to you so that you can continue to heal and move on. You can tell this lady really cares about you and now loves and cherishes her life after her own experience. Thank you so much, Tracey, I have finally accepted what happened and feel so much better within myself and at peace.” – SurThriver
“Thank you Tracy! So true about us being resilient! We are here for each other lifting each soul & spirit on a daily basis. If it weren’t for you and other survivors, I don’t know where I would be! Keep on living your truth to help heal hurting people! Hugs & Love to you??” -SurThriver
I cannot thank you enough for your wisdom and guidance! You are truly a gift from God and I so appreciate your time!!!
“OMG I feel like I just heard myself talking….WORD for WORD! UCK! They are such pieces of sh*t! So glad I FINALLY opened my eyes and can move on to find TRUE happiness, health and REAL love….. Thank you for this!” – SurThriver
“Tracy your messages come from a positive place where you demonstrate what can happen AND that there is a life afterward. I appreciate your message and story and you are a great example of how people can overcome this abuse and rise above all of this.” – Bob
“You are so innocently honest about all of this. Your frank and authentic sharing here was so healing for me…….You give your testimony in a way that is not fully tainted by anger/bitterness which I am sure you have felt….but you give the full and honest picture of what you actually experienced it AS you experienced it….and that is soooooo helpful to others who are just coming out of this freakishly insane experience without the wisdom and words to give it yet. You help US who don’t yet have those awarenesses to feel like we are not alone and that you GET it what we went through. Thank you for sharing your story with us. It truly is helpful.” – SurThriver
“It’s compassionate people like you who help victims get back on their feet again and inspire survivors like myself to get out there and pay it forward. I’ve started my own YouTube channel offering encouragement and support from my own personal trauma and experience with narcissistic abuse, your support means the world to me. Thank you for doing what you do! Much love.” -SurThriver
“Hi Tracy, just wanted to tell everyone what the surthriver course has done for me. It has changed my life dramatically and all I had to do is show up and pay attention. It was well worth my time and I am nearing completion. Along with other positive help and meditation. I feel I’m just about there.” – SurThriver
“Your example of healing is inspirational and I enjoyed how you made light of a very traumatic relationship. You said exactly what all of us survivors of narcissistic abuse think and wish we had of known before getting involved.” – SurThriver
“I just wanted to say thank-you so much. <3 I originally downloaded your podcasts and found myself listening to them all in one go, nodding in agreement to everything you advised and described. The fact that stories about these relationships with narcissists are so similar to my own, has given me a source of comfort and peace. For a long time I felt like I was going crazy, and it was only those who knew me really well saw the person I was with for who he actually was. Listening to your experiences is proving to be really helpful. Whenever I have a bad day, something that reminds me of him, or nightmares, hearing your reassurances has made each day a little less painful as I begin to get back pieces of myself. Thank-you.” -SurThriver
I wanted to reach out to you to tell you a HUGE thank you for all that you did to help guide me through my divorce process with my narcissist ex-husband. We are officially divorced as of September 2022! I realized I had not yet reached out to you to tell you this amazing new, and I definitely want you to know that I am so grateful to have found you online during my darkest of times. Your guidance during our 1:1 sessions, along with the learnings I gained from your support group that I was part of for 6 weeks is what led me to tackle my divorce head on and in the least tumultuous way possible.
Prior to meeting you I had filed for divorce 3 times and been unsuccessful each time, always going back to him due to the debilitating fear of the divorce process from all of the threats he had put into my mind. At the time it seemed easier to just stay married to him rather than going into a full-on battle with him in the court system and potentially losing all my belongings, my home, and my life savings. However, this last time was different because you helped me get into his mind and use reverse psychology in a way that worked perfectly for him. It made a world of a difference and I am happy to report that I was able to get him to sign an uncontested agreement and did not even have to face him in court.
Now I am 100% free from the marriage and the misery and torture he put me through for almost 8 long years.
I feel lighter, as if I have been released from a prison sentence. The feeling of not having to answer to him is indescribable.
So, I just had to tell you thank you, because I do not know if I would have been able to get to this pivotal point in my life without your guidance and advice.
All the best of luck to you in the future and keep doing what you’re doing. It’s making a difference!
“I reached out to Tracy at the lowest I had been, I felt lost and very much alone. Her information and strategies helped me find the courage to get out of my house, get back to work and start to understand self-love. With each session, I felt stronger. It felt good to be understood by someone who has come out the other side.” – Karen
“WOW. JUST WOW!! You are unbelievable and exactly what I needed to hear right at this very moment. You said things so succinctly and accurately that it could only come from someone who has truly dealt with a narcissist. Thank you so much!” -SurThriver
“Tracy, thank you so much and I wanted to tell you I’ve spoken with a number of counselors over the year since I met this man and your conversation for that hour or so helped me more than anyone. I think it was a treasure to find you. Knowledge is power and after speaking to you I’m actually on the right track now, that one hour and half helped me so much. Thank you!” – Dawn