After close to three decades and without any planning, I chose to escape a narcissistically abusive marriage. Wow! I wished I would have read Tracy A. Malone’s book, “Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can’t Make This Shit Up!” because then I would have learned from her extensive research and experience about the “covert tricks they pull” […]
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Have you ever noticed how the goalpost keeps moving when dealing with a narcissist? The rules, expectations, behaviors, and conduct are consistently inconsistent. Narcissists use random and varied tactics of fear and confusion to condition their targets. The objective is to keep them from ever achieving a state of equilibrium; to render them defenseless, compliant, […]
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The most common question I get from my clients or readers is, “What if I’m the narcissist?” If you’ve asked yourself this question, it’s likely because your narcissist is accusing you of being one. But the simple answer is, if you think you’re a narcissist, then that means you are concerned about other people’s feelings, […]
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Do you fear getting sucked back into another relationship with a narcissistic predator? Is this fear impeding your ability to find true love? Before you even consider jumping back into the dating pool, you must be fully recovered from your previous relationship. Time alone does not heal this kind of abuse. If you don’t take […]
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It’s easier than you might think! Wait, so you’re telling me I can’t spot a narcissist right out of the gate? AGHHH! Why does it have to take so looooong? What if I’ve already fallen for them? What if I get hurt again? What if I never find anyone to trust or love again?! Okay, […]
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Abominable, morally depraved abusers are easy to spot and always remembered. People such as Leona Helmsley (The Queen of Mean), Starlet Joan Crawford (Mommie Dearest), knighted BBC notable Jimmy Seville, brutal Haitian dictator ‘Papa Doc,’ sex offender and financier Jeffrey Epstein, and Tele-evangelist Jim Bakker, whose empire fell from Grace due to sex scandals, addiction, fraud and theft of ministry funds, are but […]
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Narcissism is getting more attention these days which is both good and bad. The good side is, for those going through a relationship with a narcissist and didn’t know it, this information can be transforming. On the bad side, there are people being labeled a narcissist when in fact they are not, they are only […]
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The Grey Rock Method! by Zoe Parsons When you can’t go no contact, you need to do what is called “detached contact” or “grey rock.” This is where you stay emotionally distant from the narcissist. By using this method, it helps you to not be continually triggered and by not engaging with them, you are […]
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7 Lies A Narcissist Wants You To Believe Are True So they can better control you by Suzanna Quintana Cognitive dissonance: psychological conflict resulting from incongruous beliefs and attitudes held simultaneously. Or as I describe it: Confused as fuck. Or: Daily life with a narcissist. It’s that feeling of complete befuddlement. Of feeling left behind, unable […]
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Healing From Narcissistic Abuse: What You Know Intellectually is Not What You Feel Emotionally by Randi Fine Are you feeling frustrated with the narcissistic abuse healing process because what you know intellectually is not what you feel emotionally? By now you have likely read and listened to everything you could find on narcissistic abuse. You consider yourself […]
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