If you have been in a relationship with someone with a narcissistic personality disorder or even one who has some traits of narcissism, no doubt you have been hurt deeply. Having a family member, parent, or sibling with narcissism can cause great harm. Emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse – this type […]
Read MoreIs Your Relationship Toxic?
Healthy relationships nourish and support us. Like poison, a toxic relationship is one that is damaging to us. Instead of uplifting us, it makes us feel worse. When it ends, we might experience post-traumatic stress or a lessening of our self-esteem and trust in ourselves and others. Although friends and family might tell us to […]
Read MoreWhy Can’t You Just Get Over It?
I’m guessing that there is not one person reading this who can say they have never had their heart broken. Even if it was just that childhood crush, we’ve all been there before, and some of us more than others. Heartbreak can take a toll on our mental, emotional, and even physical health, depending on […]
Read MoreMaking Meaning of Narcissistic Abuse for the Spiritual Woman
I don’t think I am the only woman with a deep spiritual relationship, and values, who has wanted to bang her head against a wall trying to understand the crazy-making behavior of someone she loves. The crazy-making abuse, the lack of empathy, and the desire to hold on to it all for dear life, because […]
Read MoreWhy Narcissists Get Worse Over Time
You know what I’ve never heard? Someone saying about their narcissistic ex, “They just got better and better over time!” I’ve never heard it and you’ve never heard it because it’s not true. Narcissists don’t get better, they don’t improve. This is a fact, basic science, aka Shit We Know to be True. Like other […]
Read MoreI Love Pissing You Off, Because Then I Know You Still Love Me
The Insidious Nature of Narcissistic Abuse and How To Stop Being Their Supply Have you ever noticed that your partner is really only happy when you’re sad, and then when you’re happy, they’re mad? Toxic people love when you are miserable, especially if they’ve made it so. They feed on your attention, even when it’s […]
Read More6 Tips For A Great Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day creates lots of expectations that are often unrealized. It’s fraught with landmines, whether you’re in or out of a relationship. But the grass isn’t always greener. Is your situation described here? Read six tips for having a great holiday. You’re Alone I can recall Valentine’s Days when I wished I were in love […]
Read MoreThe Winter Solstice — Christmas As A Time of Spiritual Rebirth
December 22 marks the beginning of rebirth — following the year’s shortest day. The winter solstice, since ancient times, represented symbolically the death and rebirth of the Sun, marked by a festive holiday on December 25th, Saturnalia, honoring the pagan sun god. This day came to be Christmas marking the birth of Jesus, who represented […]
Read MoreHow to Feel Grateful When You Don’t
The expectation of feeling grateful can be challenging when we’re struggling with loneliness or relationship, work or health problems. It can be even harder to have gratitude around holidays when we see other people happily celebrating. When you’re discouraged or weighed down with negative thoughts, there are several things you can do. Why Gratitude Can […]
Read MoreHow to Protect Yourself in a World of Narcissists and Other Assholes
Let’s talk about boundaries, baby… When I was a teenager, I knew exactly what a boundary was. It was that invisible line we crossed over when my parents drove us from Arizona on our way to Disneyland. Welcome to California! When my first husband came along in my early twenties, I held tight onto my […]
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