When dealing with a Narcissist, don’t be surprised if they dislike going to parties, events, and holiday celebrations. Why? Because they don’t like to fight for the spotlight — they prefer holding court and running all the attention.
They may give you grief about having to go; it rubs them the wrong way to be told when they should be happy for someone else. If they have to go, they’ll ultimately find a way to win at this party game. That faces us with two options for the Narcissist — either hijack the party with kindness as the “perfect helper”, getting them credit and a pat on the shoulder, or at the other extreme, cause problems and ruin the event for everyone.