What Are Your Assets? Green Flags
As you might know by now narcissists target great, smart, and generous people. I want you to think back to when the narcissist was first in your life (if your narcissist is a family member these also apply) they don’t date, marry or even have friends that don’t fill up their ‘supply pool’ in some way. Narcissists don’t target lazy people because that would never work, they are looking for someone to do everything for them. Your qualities are what they are attracted to because they know someone with these qualities will do the right thing, you will go the extra mile to make everyone happy.
There is also a sick little piece of their mind that enjoys taking someone who is in the prime of their life and reducing them to a pile of PTSD trauma, in their minds they win. It’s fun for them to control a person that is successful, beautiful and strong because they feel more powerful to destroy you. I call these ‘green flags’, I have a series of your vulnerabilities that you need to understand the other list is what supply were you? review these lists so you can have a better understanding of why you were chosen.
I am not in any way saying you should stop being you, I just want you to understand ‘WHY YOU WERE TARGETED‘. So many survivors believe they are narcissist magnets and that they are destined to forever ‘PICK‘ this type of person. Get that idea out of your head, you were not in the driver’s seat when you think you picked them, they picked you because of these green flags. Narcissists like it when they hear it in your story that you have any of these qualities, consider them as ‘green flags’ they throw on the field when they meet you. Get enough green flags and they quickly determine you will make a good supply, congratulations!
IF YOU CAN”T CHANGE YOUR GOOD ASSETS WHAT DO YOU DO?
Start by looking at this list and see if your woundedness reflects what they are looking for, then check my green flag assets list and the what type of supply you were list. Once you review all these things you can protect yourself better from being exploited next time. If you are ready to understand how to change the story to stop allowing an abusive person into your life, check out my workshop called ‘Change the Story’.
Your Green Flag Asset List – these may be you
love for family and friends
never speaks badly of others
willing to learn